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sjoymex
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awkward sexy dancing...
So my husband really wants me to dance for him but I feel so awkward. I thought I could do it but then the other day I started but I felt so embarrassed that I stopped and he got really disappointed. One thing was there was no music but I have no idea what music to use. Also, I'm not sure how to include him. When/how does it transform from him just watching me and us "doing stuff". Also I didn't realize how disconnected I'd feel. Like I'm just on display (nothing he did). That in particular was horrible cause I've never felt like that from him. Any advice??
Re: awkward sexy dancing...
Have a drink to relax. Turn on this song. Roll your hips. Take something off every now and then. Put your girls in his face. Grind on him a bit. At some point, he'll lose his mind and things will happen.
You can actually find videos on youtube about how to give a lap dance. Go watch them. They'll give you some ideas. Try to have fun with it. He loves you. He thinks you're hot. Prove it to him. A confident woman is a huge turn on to most men.
You could try doing something like this
sorry don't know how to make it clicky
Not only is it fun and expressive -- it is a folk dance; men women and kids do it -- it's a great way to stay in shape.
Lots of adult schools carry belly dance class.:)
You shouldn't do anything sexually that you don't enjoy.You shouldn't feel "disconnected" and "horrible" by any part of it.
If your husband thinks dancing is such a turn on, ask him to demonstrate what he has in mind so he can get his jollies and you don't have to feel uncomfortable.
I went through the same thing !!!
1. Buy a strobe light . they r cheap any any move you do in a strobe light looks cool,and its dark so he cant see every detail, trust me its awesome!
2. do a really silly song like baby got back or something and that way you dont take it too seriously , you just joke around and have fun with it
3. you dont need to dance for a long time
I def agree with lighting: try a black light and wear white undies, keeping a light on in the hallway for balance so he can actually see you, or a strobe light like PP suggested.
What kind of music do you like? There are songs in almost every genre that one dance to. Try this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jlPs-eqcKI&feature=related. Pick a song that's fun yet sexy to you, something you'll be able to almost zone out to, even if its a fast song. The key is to move slowly regardless of the tempo (think every other beat instead of every beat), and not to be too concerned with the fact that he's there watching but more about how the song makes you feel.
Go to a strip class. Aside from giving you moves, it'll help boost your confidence (b/c confidence sexy no matter what you're doing or wearing). Or look at youtube videos if class time is not an option.
Touch and squeeze him (arms, shoulders, back, legs) while you dance; touch yourself everywhere (legs, neck, tummy, arms), not just down there; simply flash the goodies a few times before you full blown take it off (if you're wearing feels, leave them on); crawl on the floor, lay on ur back and spread ur legs (keep ur toes pointed!) facing him while ur still wearing panties; flip and play with your hair; make occasional eye contact and hold it; grab his chin and tease him with light kisses, then move far away and keep dancing the moment he touches you; grind on his lap; boobies in the face; lightly lick/nibble his neck or earlobe; pick up his hand and deep throat his finger a little; rub his crotch then GENTLY run ur teeth and tongue along his d*** through his pants, look up and flash a smile at him... guys love that move...
Most importantly: remember to SMILE!!! That deer-in-headlights, straight-faced look is not sexy on anybody except Vicky's models. Smiling will help keep you relaxed, will help you have fun, and the more he sees you enjoying it, the more he will too. The beautiful thing is that he's your man. You can be as naughty or nice as you want, or both. If you fall flat on your face, laugh it off and keep on going. As long as you like it, he'll love it!! And it'll only get easier as time goes on.