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Other important issues - what are your thoughts on cell phone convos in public?
Have we discussed this before? I'm not a big phone talker anyway. .. but I'm annoyed when I have to listen to someone else's convo for extended period of time and I avoid having conversations in public places as much as I possibly can.
I also don't want to talk someone when I'm in a public place and I don't generally want to talk to someone while they are out and about it public doing stuff, etc.
Re: Other important issues - what are your thoughts on cell phone convos in public?
Depends on which public places we're talking about.
Lady on the bike next to me at the gym, talking on a work conference call for the full 60 minutes I'm working out? No thank you. And against gym rules, I might add.
Person at the register in a store, ignoring the cashier while carrying on a conversation? Rude as hell, and always tempts me to make a loud, rude remark about the talker.
But I talk when I'm at the grocery store. Not in line, but while I'm walking. It's a more convenient time for me than, say, an hour later when I'm home, trying to make dinner, and dealing with the kid. Anyone who overhears my conversation only hears a snippet, since I don't generally stand still in the store. At least not for long.
I'm generally with someone when I'm at a restaurant, so I'll only answer the phone if it's something that could me important and only long enough to find out the reason for the call and, if it's not a big deal, tell the caller I'll call them back. More upscale restaurants - I never answer the phone while at the table.
I'm generally cranky about cell phone use. So many people are just rude about it. In the checkout line, or any other place where you're stationary and people can hear your whole conversation - rude. And DO NOT get me started on people talking on the phone while they're on the toilet.
I get LLHR's thing about grocery shopping being a convenient time to make a phone call, but I admit that I find it a little annoying when someone in the store is talking on their hands-free phone because it's weird that it looks like they're talking to themselves. But I am only near them for a minute so it's not as bad.
I should also note that I hate making phone calls and my mom is the only person I ever talk to on the phone for more than a check in/where are you/I'm running late call.
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I feel pretty strongly that when I am out and about running errands, my phone conversations should not disrupt others who have the right to also run errands in relative peace. For example, like pp said, I will often call DH while wandering around the grocery store. But I will hang up before getting in line. Once you are in line you have a captive audience of others surrounding you and IMO its just rude to subject them to your one-sided conversation. If I do for some reason need to answer or make a quick call in line, I keep my voice down and get to the point so I can hang up before being rang up.
The other day I was in Panera waiting in line to order and this woman comes in behind me BLABBING loudly into her headset about her worthless DH, bills, blah blah blah and she would not shut up. The whole store could hear her, she was so loud. The kicker was she kept talking even when she got up to the register and totally ignored the cashier, while still trying to decide what she wanted....ugh, I really wanted to kick her.
Phones in restaurants irk me. If you have to answer a quick call or send a text, fine, but the people who sit there on their phones (or texting) the whole time annoy me. I think that is incredibly rude to whoever you are dining with.
I get annoyed at loud talkers having conversations near me. Particularly if they are on a bluetooth and I think they are talking to me or themselves for a split second. Passes given if it's a convo along the lines of "ok, which aisle is it in? The blue one or the green one?" obviously.
But...if the phone rings while I'm shopping or at the park or something and it's somebody I haven't talked to in a while, or have been trying to get a hold of, or just really want to chat with, I will answer. And I'm a loud talker.
So - total hypocrite, checking in. If you see me in public having a loud personal conversation on my phone feel free to shoot me nasty glares.
(though FTR, it's always places where I'm walking around or outside. I will never have a chitchat about Aunt Hilda's gall bladder surgury while you are trapped in the dentist waiting room with me. I also don't answer the phone in sit-down restaurants)
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I hate cell phones in public. Hate. I hate people who talk on them in public (I mean I don't really hate those people but they annoy the crap out of me) in almost any setting. The people wandering around wawa on their phones, the people having extended conversations in the dressing room at Loft, the people in line at chipotle (WTF? order your burrito and lets get out of here!) Grocery stores bother me less bc you are moving around but in some ways it throws me off more to wander down an aisle and hear "did you see my note?" bc I always think someone is talking to me.
I fully admit a huge part of this is that I am extremely nosey, and if I hear someone say "well i'm kind of upset with Betty right now" I want to know the details. But I can't just ASK obviously. LOL.
I also hate when people are talking on their phones loudly, and I can hear clearly about the dispute with Betty, but I'm supposed to act like I can't hear them and they are in their own little bubble. (for example, i'm in line at starbucks and someone is going off loudly about Betty being a biitch, so people are looking at them, and then the person on the phone gives those people a dirty look for "eavesdropping.' If it was such a private conversation, dont have it at Starbucks.)
So you can tell this is a real pet peeve of mine. Are there times when talking on a phone can't be helped? Of course, especially if you have a child, and I realize that so I do try to keep that in mind. But I don't think that's the case every time I see someone on the phone in public, and its certainly not the case for the person shopping at Nine West with me who disconnects from one call, then calls someone else "just to see what's up." Just be silent for a few moments. It's okay, I promise.
My bigger issue though is my SIL, who answers the phone in the car and has conversations. One time it was her, my brother and me in the car and her best friend called so she talked to her the whole way home. My brother and I couldn't talk bc of her conversation. Apparently later he told her that was really rude bc she asked me if I thought it was rude and it was "just because I hadn't spoken to her in a couple of days." I was just kind of like well it was awkward bc then Mark and I just sat there in silence (I'm not so good at saying "yes you are rude.")
I do think people talk louder on their phones so that is definitely an issue.
It's also very distracting. Personally I am much more distracted when I am on my cell phone talking to DH than I am when i am talking to him in person. I find it really distracting to hear 'Did you get my message......uh-huh, uh-huh....well I emailed that to you........okay well here's what I'm going to do" as opposed to a full conversation (and despite being nosey lol I really dont go out of my way to overhear other's conversations). I also think people tend to share personal information on cell phone calls that they dont share if they are having a conversation in person in a checkout line.
Finally, when you are having a conversation in person with someone they are also aware of the social cues etc. If it is your turn to approach the cashier presumably the conversation pauses without a whole "wait, sorry, I have to check out, can I call you back, give me five minutes."
I hate it when someone is talking on the phone when your in a public bathroom. The whole thing is really gross. This has happened to me at work, I'm thinking the person is talking to me, when they are really talking to someone on the phone. I'm sure the person on the other end doesn't want to hear the toilet flushing, etc.
Say someone calls me while I'm in Target, I normally try to make it as short as possible and get off the phone. I hate being in line and someone is on the phone or has an ear piece in and they are just talking away. I find it very rude to the person checking you out.
I feel like when you are having a convo with the other person right there both of you will adjust your volume accordingly, and that is not the case on the phone.
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Oh, I was super peeved at this woman the other day in Hallmark. I am trying to read the cards and this lady is standing right next to me loudly talking about something so irrelevant! Geesh people...get off the phone for 5 minutes! I said something out loud becasue she was driving me crazy! I even said something to the cashier about banning cellphones in Hallmark because it is sorta like a library! lol! She agreed with me and said what annoys her even more is people talking on the phone while they are being checked out. I compeltely understand if it is a emergency of some sort or even "What kind of such and such do you want?" But, useless conversations about nothing...totally annoying!
I generally don't like talking on the phone, neither does DH. We actually have a family plan where we have 700 minutes to use between the two of us, we used 71 minutes last month, 71 MINUTES and this is the lowest plan.
Short conversations, where you can tell there is a specific purpose for the phone call, I don't mind. Loud conversations, say, on the metro are really annoying. I will take a call when I'm in public, but not when I have to interact with other people like cashiers, sales people, or when I'm shopping with someone else. I also have a very soft voice, so it would be hard to hear me anyway.
People at work have very loud personal conversations, and we work in cubes. I know waaaaay too much about many of my co-workers, like very personal and embarassing things. The few times I have to make personal phone calls I go into an empty conference room or hallway and make it as brief as possible.