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Need a short vent
DH's 18 year old cousin just had her baby yesterday. I don't know why, but this makes me feel mopey. Like, I know she's gonna have a tough time now, she has to get back to school after three weeks, or not graduate. She's going to have to get a job to help her parents out with the little guy. She's going to have to deal with the dating world where some men go running just because you have a kid. She's going to have to grow up real fast. I know this!
But she's posting every two hours on fb how much she's falling in love with her baby, and how she never though she could love anyone so much and putting up pictures of him with this adorable little tiger hat, and it's making me sad. And it's not even that I'm jealous, I don't know, I'm just mopey. (and probably entirely hormonal)
Re: Need a short vent
I have a hard time seeing people have kids when I know that they are going to struggle. My heart goes out for the child and most of the time, I just want to smack the mother. I don't doubt that these people don't love their children, but I often can't feel happy for them the way I am happy for people who are married, have their lives together, and thought everything through.
My secretary had a child with someone on the sexual predator list. She did it on purpose b/c she was afraid he would leave her. He doesn't have a job, they had to move b/c her house was next to a school and he couldn't live there and he is verbally abusive. Why would you choose to have a kid at this point in your life?
Some people never cease to amaze me. The best thing I think of is that it makes me feel better about myself. It makes me feel smart and that I have my sh*t together.
I know exactly what you mean. It's bittersweet. It's not that you're not happy, it's that you wish it had happened "how it's supposed to." And I KNOW things work out like they're meant to life...but sometimes when this kind of stuff first happens, you can't help but feel a little bummed almost.
Hard to explain via chat board! But I get you!
I can understand how you feel. I struggled with feelings like this hardcore during the 6 months when we tried super hard to get pregnant.
My thoughts go to - why is it that there are couples out there that are trying so hard to become parents but cant. They are spending thousands of dollars with infertility treatment, surrogacy, and adoption. And then there are people, who are not in the ideal situation, who didn't want to get pregnant, who are going to bring their child up in a less than ideal environment with a struggling single parent. It just doesn't seem fair to me.
I am a person of faith... but stuff like this really makes me question why things are the way they are sometimes.