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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
If your parents had to choose a DH for you...
do you think he would be like the one you chose?
Do you think that your parents and you share similiar ideas of what an ideal mate should have?
Re: If your parents had to choose a DH for you...
I think if someone said "you can go back in time and choose your daughter's DH" they would probably pick H because they know I am happy with him and that he adores me. But I think my Mom and I have quite different taste in men, personality wise. So if she could have picked someone 7 years ago, she would probably have picked someone more driven, while I was never happy while dating ambitious guys.
My Mom really, really loved my high school boyfriend, who I met because he babysat for her best friend. We've stayed friends and in college she used to hint all the time that we should get back together. He's a doctor now, and very cute, but we never really had that "spark." I know that if my family did arranged marriages, we would definitely be married today!
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My parents love DH, but they wouldn't have picked him. They'd have picked someone local and almost certainly from their church. He'd be nice enough, but I'd be miserable because I hate my hometown and while I know "mixed" marriages can work, I don't think I'd be good at being wife to a theist. Especially in my hometown.
Other than location, politics, and religion, my parents would probably do a decent job. They know my personality and what works with it, and that's why they do love DH as much as they do.
As far as my dad goes, yes, because my dad is awesome and I think all he ever wanted was for me to find someone who supports my growth as a person and encourages me to pursue my dreams (as my father did when I was growing up). It helps that DH has a good career, blah blah blah, but we started dating when we were in college and my dad liked him even before he knew what kind of job DH would have one day or anything like that.
My mom would have had me marry my first boyfriend. His grandfather and mine worked together in "the old country," his parents are "good people" that my mom has known forever, we have the same cultural background, values, etc. and for my mom, that pretty much trumps everything else. She hates that she can't "figure out" my ILs and that they don't have the same frames of reference for a lot of things.