October 2009 Weddings
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Anniversary plans and how has your marriage been so far? (clicky poll)
I know we talked about ideas a little bit ago, but what are your anni plans? Anyone have theirs last weekend? What'd you do? I can't believe it's been 2 years already and that some of us have "known" each other for going on 4 years now! Where does the time go?
Also, I have to say, even with the infertility struggles (which suck worse than I could have ever expected... and I had assumed I'd be super-fertile since everyone else in my family gets KU by accident, including my twin sister) and trying to adjust to a cross-country move, new jobs, new friends, etc. Justin and I have never been closer. Now we are bust with IVF and plotting our triumphant return to Brooklyn. Yay!
How have the last 2 years been for you and your marriage?
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After 22 cycles and 4 failed IUIs, Serafina joined our family through IVF/ICSI, born 8.28.12
Surprise! The Sequel is due 12.8.14!
Re: Anniversary plans and how has your marriage been so far? (clicky poll)
I've posted here before, but our anniversary present to each other is going to a concert. It's not for a few weeks though.
Our actual anniversary will probably be spent packing because we are in the process of buying our first home! It's so exciting and terrifying at the same time. Our close date is October 14th. I've been so focused on October 14th, I almost forgot about our anniversary on October 10th!
We dont really have any plans for our anniversary. We may leave lil man with my parents and go out to dinner just the two of us. That in itself is a huge present for us, as we dont go out alone.
As far as our marriage goes, things are great. We are contemplating on when we are going to TTC baby #2.
HAPPY ANNIVERSAY to everyone!!!
Congrats! It is super terrifying but you will not regret it, I promise
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Today is our actual anniversary...we'll probably do nothing but watch tv tonight, but we went to dinner on Saturday night and it was nice to have a meal with just the two of us. We spent the weekend together with little man and painted the living room. We are prepping for Liam's first b-day party next weekend so that has really been our focus.
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Hey all! Happy Anniversary Month!
This year, DH and I are trekking up to Canada to Quebec City. I've lived in Maine most of my life, but have never been to Canada--how crazy is that?? I'm very excited. I don't think DH and I have had a trip with just the two of us since our honeymoon. It'll be nice to get away.
We've been doing very well, just busy, so we have to cherish the moments we can spend together. When DH isn't traveling for audits, he's in evening classes working toward his CPA, which he should hopefully get January 2013. I just started a new job a couple months ago (yay!) and am now a test knitter for a local yarn company. Busy, busy. Making the decision to put off buying a home was tough, but we want to pay for DH's tuition out of pocket. And it's only about another year and a half of apartment living and I can dream about homes in the meantime.
I think quitting my old job this summer was one of the best things that's happened to us in a long time. I don't come home angry or frustrated anymore and don't worry as much about my future at the new firm. We have a much more harmonious home since I ditched the old jerk. We'll see how long that lasts after MIL comes to visit next weekend, though!
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So nice of you to say... thanks!!
We've had a bit of a dreadful year, which I have never really brought up before, but for I while there we really considered counselling and I can't say we've fully ruled it out. Its issues we would have had to deal with even if were weren't husband and wife, like if we were still just common law. The Mr. has a tendency to "hide" things as in being behind on his bills (i.e. his cell phone, car insurance); he thinks if I don't know about it and he can get caught up on it all is well. I keep telling him that even though it's in his name we're one unit and if they can't get payment from him then they come to me. It's been quite a road to travel and things seem to be in order now but my trust is very thin and it sometimes leads to arguing. I don't want to break up of course because I think it's something that can be "fixed" so it seems like counselling might still be in our future....oh my, that's a vent.
After all that this is going to seem foolish but for our Anniversary we'd planned on going to Washington for a couple of nights, however, as you can see below my car is currently not safe on the highway and the Mr.?s car burns so much gas it's not really worth taking it. If I can get some test driving done then maybe we'll still get to go but if we can't we'll rent a car and just go somewhere in Alberta if Washington is out of the cards.
I'm sorry to hear that things have been bumpy, witchy. But I think it's great that you are at least talking about it together. Patience and communication are key. It seems obvious that he's not hiding these things to be deliberately deceptive (correct me if I'm wrong), but because this is how he has always operated. Change is hard... especially for men.
As a person who has been through counseling with her spouse, I can 100% say that love is absolutely worth fighting for. If you fight for it, and it doesn't feel right afterwards, then it isn't meant to be but you can feel good about knowing you gave it your best shot. DH and I found a wonderful counselor who was able to help with DH's issues but also was really good at being able to help both of us with some other issues aside from the original ones. We still argue of course but we've committed to making it work and came out the other side better than before.
We've done really well so far, and I think it's because we both stay busy and do our own thing. We both work ft, but I also go to school pt (and hope to bump that up soon). This gives us space! (Not that I don't like spending time with him
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For our anniversary, I'm still searching for underpants. Old Navy generally has cute print boxers, but not so much right now. Since the anni is next Mon., we'll have dinner this weekend. The following weekend, we're going to French Lick to relax and gamble.
@Kellie- that was us last year! We got the keys to our house two days before our anniversary!
I've learned a LOT the last couple years! In that, having been married before, I used to daydream about how this would be different- I would be more liberal, do less dishes, and just be different. What I've learned is that while it's certainly a better situation, and I love my husband relentlessly, some things didn't change. Maybe that's because I'm still me. I'm a better version of course, but for example, the sex still gets boring, I still do all the dishes, and he's still a man/boy and god is there a man out there that doesn't play video games?. There will always be fights about money, and messes, and things that annoy the crepe out of me. Sometimes it makes me laugh, like I'm in a Twilight Zone version of my previous marriage.
On the other hand, we communicate better, have a better idea of what we expect from each other, and agree on where we're headed. I'm allowed to be 'me' in ways that wasn't before, and he not only tolerates it, he loves me for it.
I would say we're headed in the right direction. That we signed a death-pact and no one gets out alive helps. There is no 'out', only certain death. Makes the little things more tolerable that way.
Not sure yet what we're doing for our anniversary. Ours is a Monday and we're both off work on Mondays so I'm hoping for a good hike and picnic where we had our wedding but we'll see what the husband wants. We haven't talked about it at all.
I feel such a feeling of awe and thankfulness at our marriage. Of course there are rough days but we worked and grew so much the first few years of dating that it really has been much easier than I expected.
I am so so proud of you who have had some struggles but have stuck in there and made steps to work through things. People give up too quickly these days.
HAPPY TWO YEARS EVERYONE!!!
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Mine, and he works for EA (Electronic Arts)! He will play the occassional football game at work just to see the user experience (he's in marketing), but we don't even own a console for the house. Haha!
@kel - thanks, I also don't believe he's being deceptive; it's just the way we operated before we got married. His bills were his and mine were mine and if he was behind then he was the one to take the consequences but now...It's a practice we should have broken before the wedding but live and learn
@ Witty - I knew you guys had gotten counselling and I had wanted to ask you about it before but I was a bit self concious and I didn't want to come off as weird. Lol.
Happy 2 years ladies! I hope everyone has a fabulous anniversary!
I just figured out I have been dropped from my mother-in-laws "family/friend" email list....so when she sends out religious or "funny" emails...I am no longer getting them. LOL....marriage is great, mother in law...not so great...
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Happy Birthday and anniversary!
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Woo! Celebrate!
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I just found out last night that we'll have our final walk-through on our anniversary! I can't think of a better way to spend the evening!
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HAHA!!! We're so broke, my PARENTS are taking us out for an anniversary dinner. This is hysterical, and kinda sad.