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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
inspired by mintchocochip.....does the sex really matter?
Let's say you meet your perfect match. Everything about him is amazing. He fits into everything you want - he is your soulmate. So you decide to sleep with him and the sex is kind of blah. You work on it, you try to talk to him about it, go see an Amsterdam sex show together for pointers, blah blah blah but the sex is just vanilla. Do you continue the relationship or is that a relationship killer and you go on a search for your soulmate who is good in bed.
Re: inspired by mintchocochip.....does the sex really matter?
Id pick a good relationship over great sex, but sex certainly is important. If it was creepy silent, "how does it feel?" (answer) "um hm good" ::stares at you while slowly moving and never breaking eye contact:: then that would be a deal breaker (obv on acct of my story).
In an amazing relationship where youre partners, affectionate and sensual too, vanilla sex would be okay. Partners but best friends and NO sex isnt something I'd want though.
ETA: I'd go to sex therapy before it became a deal breaker though...if we were married.
I think at some point in my life, it was a deal breaker. There were some baddies out there.
However, somehow, some way, BF turned my world upside-down and made me realize that 'no sex' is okay. Yes, we're waiting. For the first time in my relationship-having life, I'm intercourse free.
Nowwwwww, we 'take care of each other'...and in that regard, the boy just ain't vanilla. I think I lucked out.
Holy cow, I cannot wait for sex though.
Not as much as everything else. Amazingly enough I can make do without sex for quite a while. In Italy DH had to go away for weeks at a time. (With him being military there is always to potential for much longer times without). While pregnant there isn't always engery/interest. After having a baby there is a six-week hiatus until the doctor says go ahead. One of us gets sick and just can't. All kinds of situations. What does matter is a partner who makes the effort to communicate while having to be away, who loves me being pregnant, who helps parent our kids, who thinks there is so much more to our relationship being wonderful and fun than just good sex.
I also know people who are the opposite of me. They had a great partner, someone who is everything except great at sex, and it was never good enough for them. They would actually prefer to have great sex with other problem areas. Watched some of them walk away from otherwise fabulous relationships and get into ones where they have some serious issues, but hey, the sex is great. Unfortunately many of them don't get that they actively chose their situation and will go on and on complaining about their new issues.
This. I can take care of myself if it comes down to it.
I think sex is very important, but bad sex wouldn't be a deal breaker. Sex can be learned and worked on and improved!
I think someone who was searching for their sex soul mate would be searching for a really really long time. Even with perfectly compatible couples, sometimes sex will be bad or too vanilla but sometimes it will be mind blowing or great.