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I'm so tired all of the time!
As most of you probably know by now, I commute an hour each way to work. I'm a teacher, so by the time I get home it's around 4:30-4:45, then I have to make dinner, and grade/plan for work. I feel like I'm literally always working.
I want to have time to work out. I really do. But honestly, I'm so tired that I can't motivate myself to make my body more tired. And, if I work out, I'm not going to get home until around 6:00, then have to do all of the nightly house/work stuff.
DH works out twice a day--once at lunch and again when he's off work. I feel like he judges me because I don't work out. It really makes me feel bad. I kind of snapped on him on the phone a few minutes ago because he was all, "Well, you have no excuse to complain about your body if you're not going to work out. You say you want to work out, then you don't do it. You have to make time for it."
I went off. I told him that he has not clue how tiring it is to drive that far every single day and then still have more work to do upon coming home. I literally have maybe 30 minutes to an hour to myself every night. I want to work out and get in shape so I feel better about myself, but I just don't know where I can find the time to do that. And then he works out so much and sort of nags about me not working out and it makes me feel awful. I'm like on the verge of tears right now from pure exhaustion and then add how his comments make me feel, and I might just snap.
Re: I'm so tired all of the time!
This sucks :-( I'd def try and fit a good cry in, b/c it sounds like you need the release, you know??
You are aware there's a problem with the routine you've been keeping; you've reached your breaking point. Now you need to seriously find a way to look at your life, and try to make "me" time for yourself to exercise.
I think it may help if you sit with your DH, and explain more pointedly and calmly that you need his support and encouragement to motivate you rather then his criticism. And if you want to workout at night twice a week for your health and sanity, he needs to step it up and help you more with the evening tasks at home, period. Why should his wellness come before yours? You both deserve time to take care of your bodies, and that only makes you a better partner to the other.
Then maybe you can fit in exercise other times of the rest of the days. Bottom line is: Your physical health and mental health are at stake if you don't find some time for you in your day to day tasks. Exercise will eventually boost your energy in the long run btw, so you'll oddly feel less tired over time.
I literally had a breaking point this past July, because I'd been out of dance class (and therefore regular exercise) so long and felt overwhelmed with my work, and home duties, and H was soooo helpful and supportive. He wants me to be sane and healthy and happy...because it trickles into our marriage otherwise.
Trust me...there's a way to fit it in! But you need to take a moment to address the needs with your H, then sit back and decide what needs to change so you can do what you have a need, and a right to do.
I agree with Branz, (but then, I usually do.)
Ask, or tell, whatever works for you, DH to cook/tidy/whatever twice a week so you can head to the gym after work. The time at the gym will double as your alone time, and before you know it, you will be fit, healthy and happy.
Providing of course that DH can cook...
Oh, and don't forget, a session between the sheets can double as a workout. ;0)
I totally understand you. I commute every day about the same amount as you, and I recently decided to start working out. or at least running. It's been hard and I only went to the gym like twice in the last two weeks. I hope to get back into my routine, but I know it will be hard, mostly because of no time
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