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Just found out someone died in our new house...
Hello everyone, I am a previous knot and bumpie poster but this is my first time posting on the nest! DH and I are in the process of buying a house in CT. We are all set to close on the 31st... Halloween.
So, my parents' first home was within walking distance of ours. They know a lot about the neighborhood we're moving into and a few of the neighbors as well. I found out that the family who lived in the house we're buying were the ONLY owners and they lived there their whole lives. They raised 4 kids in that little cape! Now, I knew the son was selling the house because both of his parents had passed away, however, I JUST found out that his mother passed away IN the house. There was a fair sized investigation regarding her passing because she died of "blunt force trauma to the head." But it was ruled an accident. She was found in her bed at 2:30 pm. How does one died of blunt force trauma while in bed accidentally? She was 85.
Also, she died 11/6/10, since we'll be moving in 10/31, we'll be in the house on the year anniversary of her death.
I am not a believer in the paranormal. I DO believe that people have spirits that once in heaven, can watch over us. When we first looked at the house, I did sense a woman's spirit, but it was a friendly welcoming one. Since our offer was accepted we've been back into the house many times for inspections etc. It has always been calm and I have never been afraid. I have not sensed a spirit since, rather, I feel like she was glad to see her house go to a nice young couple, and she has since moved on her way to be with her husband.
Am I insane? Should I be worried? Or am I letting the season's vibes consume me?
So, my parents' first home was within walking distance of ours. They know a lot about the neighborhood we're moving into and a few of the neighbors as well. I found out that the family who lived in the house we're buying were the ONLY owners and they lived there their whole lives. They raised 4 kids in that little cape! Now, I knew the son was selling the house because both of his parents had passed away, however, I JUST found out that his mother passed away IN the house. There was a fair sized investigation regarding her passing because she died of "blunt force trauma to the head." But it was ruled an accident. She was found in her bed at 2:30 pm. How does one died of blunt force trauma while in bed accidentally? She was 85.
Also, she died 11/6/10, since we'll be moving in 10/31, we'll be in the house on the year anniversary of her death.
I am not a believer in the paranormal. I DO believe that people have spirits that once in heaven, can watch over us. When we first looked at the house, I did sense a woman's spirit, but it was a friendly welcoming one. Since our offer was accepted we've been back into the house many times for inspections etc. It has always been calm and I have never been afraid. I have not sensed a spirit since, rather, I feel like she was glad to see her house go to a nice young couple, and she has since moved on her way to be with her husband.
Am I insane? Should I be worried? Or am I letting the season's vibes consume me?
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Re: Just found out someone died in our new house...
She could have fallen (happens to older people all the time), gotten back in bed and then passed out or passed away. Unfortunately a bump on the head can be serious if it happens in the right place and medical attention isn't sought.
If you believe in it, maybe burn some sage when you move in - but I wouldn't let this deter the sale or freak you out. If this woman spent her whole life in the home, raised 4 kids, had countless happy memories there and then ended up passing away someplace she loved (rather than a cold hospital room or nursing home) then I really doubt her "spirit", if there is such a thing, would be upset about a new young couple moving in to start their lives together. If anything, if it were me and I was the old lady ghost
DS1 born June 2008 | m/c at 9w March 2011 | DS2 born April 2012
You're letting the season's vibes consume you. This doesn't seem like anything to worry about at all. In fact, I'd be willing to be that almost everyone who owns a really old home has had someone die in their home.
DH is a nurse who works mostly with elderly patients. He said that it wouldn't have been unusual for a older person to have a blunt force trauma wound from a fall. So, she got up to go to the bathroom, fell and hit her head, and lay back down either because she didn't realize it was a bad wound or because she was disoriented.
Don't laugh but I am a believer of the paranormal, of heaven and of hell. I would say if you have good vibes in this house, go for it. If you are religious, it can't hurt if you have a priest, pastor, rabbi, etc come out and bless the house as you are moving in or once you are settled.
The people we bought our house from, the H was in an Assisted Living home and the wife was in a Dementia unit, both still alive as far as I know. But from the moment DH and I stepped in here, it felt like home and even more so when we decorated according to our sense of style and got rid of old lady wall paper and curtains.
Don't let the season put a fear in you that you didn't have before and enjoy your new house!
Well I don't think that legally, sensing a spirit would be a valid out for your contract to buy
But as far as the death goes, I don't think it would both me unless it had been some kind of gruesome murder. It's pretty common for the eldery or sometimes younger sick people to die in their homes. My DH's grandmother did, she wanted to be there rather than at a hospital. So I don't think fear of death in general would stop me. From what you've posted it sounds like if there is any sort of spirit, it's a peaceful one anyway.
You're right, we had looked at about 10 houses (our house search only lasted about 2 weeks!) any several of them creeped me out when I went inside. The house we chose was the only one that we walked into and felt right at home. I have a feeling the woman who died will leave the house to watch over her son. She was a grandmother and a great grand mother as well. She's not going to be spending much time with us. Even if she does, I have a feeling she'll be more of a guardian than anything.
The really interesting thing was that on her on-line memorial, people were leaving comments about all of the wonderful memories they had of that house, sledding down the hill, having picnics in the yard and breezeway... I am glad to know it will be a warm lively place again
I live in an 93 year old house. Pretty sure some people died here.
Also? The previous owner did die here (she lived here for 50 years) and then the house sat vacant for a decade while the neighborhood was ravaged by the crack wars of the 90s.
Not concerned. Every once in a while we find something that is clearly the remnant of the old lady and it makes us smile (we just found something hilarious in the attic a few weeks ago).
If no one bought houses where people might have died...we'd all live in new houses and that would be terribly inefficient. And sad. I love old houses.
We live in an area where things like that are disclosed. Unless it was a violent murder, it would not be an issue for me. We have a house down the road where someone died - age related. It was known to us and the new buyers and the house sold much more easily than others within a few blocks where no one died.
That would freak me out.
I wouldn't mind so much if someone passed of natural causes in my house-to-be in their sleep or whatever because well...it happens...but blunt force trauma?
I don't know. I would definitely think twice.
Honestly if I were that worried or freaked but I loved the house I'd have it blessed or saged or something, for peace of mind if nothing else. Weird worries call for weird remedies sometimes.
The house that we just moved out of, a young man committed suicide in it a few years before we moved in.
I think almost every house has someone die in it.
And I think you are a little bit nuts to worry about it.
You're insane. You've bought the house. Enjoy it.
My MIL found out that the old man who owned her house before she bought it died in the house, of a heart attack. She shared with us all that she thinks he may watch her while she's naked in the shower.
Sigh. Please don't become my MIL.
Blunt force trauma doesn't mean a violent crime. She could have fallen, hit her head on something and maybe laid down and then died and that's just one scenario. It's not uncommon with elderly people.
honestly I think you need to chill- since the same people owned the home from the beginning it was likly that one of the owners passed in the home. It is nothing to freak over. My grandma and grandfather passed in the home I grew up in- no big deal. We Americans are so freaked about death.... my opinion might be colored by the fact that I worked in hospice and death is not a taboo thing.
As for blunt force trauma- she could have fallen down the stairs or slipped in the tub- hit her head and decided to lay down because she felt bad. She had some injury to her head and passed quietly in her sleep from it. Oh and ANY TIME someone dies alone and not under a doctors care there is an investigation.