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Spill the beans - guilty conscious
Sooo, I was driving to work this morning, and was thinking back to when I was about 19. I had a lovely boyfriend, but I wasn't the nicest person around, and didn't treat him as well as I could have. Even cheating on him once or twice. He was devastated when we broke up, but I was young and it was obviously never going to work. We were together about a year maybe? Maybe not that long, I forget, it was about 12 years ago!
Anyway, after a long time of not talking, we finally made it back to friend status. We have a great time when we hang out, and although I haven't seen him in a couple of years, due to me moving countries, we talk all the time on MSN. I have apologised for my actions, and he has forgiven me for treating him like a doormat (although I doubt his Mother ever will), but sometimes, I still feel SO guilty about it. He is a great guy, and although it never would have worked out between us as a couple (no spark), he deserved so much better. Don't get me wrong, most of the time we had the best of fun together. But sometimes, just sometimes, I think about it, and wish I had been a better person.
I count cheating on him as the worst thing I have ever done.
Anyone else willing to share their worst thing?
Perhaps you broke your Grandmothers vase and lied about it, or stole something from a shop? Come on, spill your beans. Feels good to get it off your chest, and I promise no one will judge you.
Re: Spill the beans - guilty conscious
OMG, did you get into my head and write this?!?!?!
Besides the being in different countries part this is me. Except that the guy in your story is MY HUSBAND in mine.
I did this, we broke up. Didn't talk for 9 months afterwords, got to be friends again, then three years later got back together. And the part about his mother not forgiving you, I still have fears about that from my MIL
I have a variation Kath and lex! I kinda sorta cheated on my ex with... my husband! And yes, if I could go back in time, I would have just ended the relationship and gotten with DH.
I didn't sleep with DH or anything and there was no substance abuse when the 'cheating' happened. Ex-BF and I were going to separate colleges 500 miles away. I met DH, became friends and I eventually began to have feelings for DH. One night my friends and I were over at DH's apartment he shared with 2 roommates for a movie night. After the movie, DH and I were talking and he leaned over and kissed me. I told him he knew I had a boyfriend back home, but I had feelings for him too. DH told me he'd wait for me to figure things out. I dumped the ex the next morning. Now DH and I are old married fogies.
LOL, mine's pretty tame. But I still feel guilty because I loved my ex-BF so so much. I just knew we were taking two very different paths in life. Besides for that, he wanted to be on the West Coast, and I'm a Southern/East Coast girl. Would never work.
Ex-BF hasn't spoken to me in a number of years and I hate that. We saw each other a few times after DH and I got together and ex even took me out to dinner one night. I always feel guilty when I think about how much fun I had with the guy and how I wish we could be friends and support one another the way we did before we dated.
I came back to our hometown a few years ago to live and a lot of the friends I once had were (rightly) pissed at me for what I did. I've only told a few people what really happened because I think my ex-BF blew the story out of proportion and people sided with him.
Blah. That was almost 5 years ago and I still think people hate me for it, which only furthers my guilt. At least I've got DH! I knew he was something special!
Do the creep.
I think the worst thing I have ever done purposefully (I am sure there were a lot of bad things I did not thinking about it), was to sleep with a dude that my best friend liked. At that time she was my best friend, she met him and spent a night at his place, but only teased him and caused him blue balls. She then took me to a party where he was, and they did not talk much. In fact, she flirted with his friend. This dude talked to me all night, and was so much into me, and I had just broken up with my cheating ex, and needed a good rebound
I knew my friend would be upset - she was just so super posessive, but the guy was smart, good looking, and perfectly endowed you know where LOL... needless to say her and I are not friends anymore.
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Sounds like she didn't have much of a chance with him anyway....
Thanks for sharing.