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Thoughts on *optional* diaper raffles?
Just curious as to what the consensus is if it's mentioned as optional on an invite.
Thanks. Looking forward to your comments.
Re: Thoughts on *optional* diaper raffles?
Tacky.
Nice to get a different persepective. I recently went to a shower where it was optional and I just thought to myself "ok, I'll stick to the nice gift and skip the diapers." It didn't cross my mind to get a smaller gift and the diapers. I would say about less than half of the guests brought diapers. It was a small-ish sprinkle, so maybe that had something to do with it.
Tacky.
I wouldn't know not to wrap it. I guarantee my mom wouldn't know. Also, an 8 month supply of diapers takes up some room.
I also think sprinkles are tacky so...
Well worth the fact that it only cost $50 for 8+ months of diapers for your sister? Of course it seems that way, everyone loves free stuff. IMO, the whole diaper raffle thing is a lamely packaged way to get people to buy you even more things for your baby. To me, it would be like putting paper towels and TP on your wedding registry.
I'm gonna disagree with the majority.
If I actually go to a shower (bridal or baby), it's gonna be for someone I really love and don't mind spending money on. If I don't adore the person, I just don't go - I might send a gift, depending on the level of closeness. I don't send gifts just because I'm invited.
So, assuming I'm going, I would either (1) bring a nice gift or (2) bring a nice gift + diapers if I wanted to win a prize.
This made me laugh. Wouldn't it be funny to go over to a board on the knot and find folks planning paper towel raffles? lol
Sure if I had an unlimited budget I'd do this. I don't though. I know how much I can spend and even though it says optional I would feel like I should do it- not for the prize, but because the mom really wants diapers. So the diapers become party of the total gift budget.
Also, as a mom who has purchased a lot of diapers, I know I get buy in bulk from BRU for XX rather than you paying a higher per diaper amount from Target or wherever, so, if you want to do the math, I would rather you spend $50 on a gift rather than $30 on a gift and $20 on diapers.
I don't know if that makes sense in writing like it does in my head.
I don't have an unlimited budget either, which is why if I'm not willing/able to spend the money, I just decline the invitation to the shower.
I should amend and say that my original post was unclear. I would include the diapers in the total gift price. If, say, I was going to spend $40 on a gift and I bought $15 worth of diapers, I'd buy a $25 instead. But I wouldn't, like, buy diapers and then just stick a $3 pack of bibs on top as the gift and call it a day (which is how I was reading previous posts that said if they had to buy diapers, they'd buy a cheap gift). If my budget was only $15 and I couldn't afford diapers and a gift, I just wouldn't buy the diapers.
I've never thought of a diaper raffle as something that you "should" participate in, whether it says optional or not. But, I also never think of diaper raffles as something the mom requests, but as something the party planner invents as a game. Then again, I don't have kids, so I don't know.