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MIL Story (Long)
First, a little backstory...
DH and his Mom have always had a rocky relationship. It's always a bit of a rollercoaster with the woman, to say the least. She only lives in Lansing but we only see her a few times a year, if that. DH really doesn't talk to her much. DH wrote her a long email back in July telling her about the day of the C-Section and about the name we had chosen. She never wrote back. We saw her in September (at that mini-baby shower thing) and again we talked about the date of my CS and the name, etc.
The day that Lily was born, we were in the recovery room and DH was making his calls to everyone to let them know she had arrived. He got his Mom's voicemail and left a message, something like "Just wanted to let you know that Lily is here!" and then gave her stats, time of birth, etc. A couple hours later she calls back and leaves a nasty message on DH's phone. She basically said "Um, Yeah... it's your MOTHER. I didn't even KNOW that today was the day of the CS. I thought it was next week. (whine whine whine). I'd also appreciate knowing her FULL name. I'm only your MOTHER. You'd think I'd know these things. Whatever." So no congratulations, no nothing. Just her bitching.
So obviously DH was irritated, and I don't blame him. She knew damn well about the date of the CS and about the name as well, so why she wanted to try and start crap is beyond me. I think she just felt the need to make things all about her. Who knows. So DH didn't even call back because he basically had nothing to say.
She calls back again later in the day and DH picked up that time. The first thing she says is "I just wanted to make sure you got my message". In other words, I'm calling to MAKE SURE you know that I'm pissed. DH basically just stayed calm (I give him credit) and said "I don't know what to tell you Mom. I wrote you an email and told you all about the details." She whined about it a little more, but I think when she realized that she wasn't getting DH all worked up (pathetic that this was her intention) she just shut up about it. Around this time, the nurse was coming in the room to help me get out of bed for the first time, so we were chatting. The phone in the room was also ringing, so there was a bit of commotion going on. MIL says to DH all snotty "Sounds like you're pretty busy". DH said "Well, Sarah's parents are coming up in a little bit with Emma". MIL then says "Alright, well I'll let you go then" and basically hangs up. She never made any mention of wanting to come up to the hospital or anything. Believe me, we didn't really care.... but still. I'm sure it was still hurtful to DH that his own mother didn't even want to come to the hospital. Oh well.
Later that night when DH was on my FB account posting an announcement about her arrival, he tried accessing MIL's wall from my account. At this point we realized that she was no longer my friend. So basically she deleted me as a friend. LOL. I was like "whhhhat?! What in the H did I do?" I thought it was so bizarre, and yet so funny. Does this woman not understand that I'm the only one that ever really posts pictures or updates, so if she wants any news on the grandkids they'd be coming from me? I can't wait until she tries to "Friend" me again and I decline. 
Later that weekend DH was looking at my SIL's FB profile. She had posted a little update on Friday saying something about her new niece Lily being born. MIL comments on that update with something like "Lily.. is that how they're spelling it? I don't even know" or something all whiny to that extent, like "poor me, I don't even know how to spell my grandchild's name!" SIL responds with "Yes, I'm pretty sure that's how they're spelling it" and MIL write back "It's no big deal, just wondered" which I thought was kinda' rude.
After all of this oddball behavior, a package arrives on Tuesday and it's a gift from her for Lily. 
The note says "Hope I get to see you sometime soon". Now I could just be overreacting and looking too far into that statement, but under the circumstances I can't help but think it's another whiny jab like "I hope I get to see you, assuming your terrible Mommy and Daddy let me see you".
Alright, end of story. Even thinking about this woman is bringing me down and I can't have that happening. 
If you've made it to the end, here's a pickle.
Re: MIL Story (Long)
Serendipity3, South Beach, Miami, FL 2012
Wow, she sounds like absolute piece of work. I think your DH handled the situation really well considering everything. I would write the most absolute sugary sweet TY note for that gift I could, just to get at her
And thanks for the pickle. It's not even lunch time and I am starving already!
I'm sorry you have a Monster-in-law! If you want someone to put her in her place, let me know? I can be in Lansing quickly
This! If you kill her with kindness she wont know how to handle it haha. Sorry you have to deal with the crazy situation.
She sounds like a very quacky wacky, strange bird. Why in the world would someone be like that with a new grandbaby in the picture?!?
Very mature of her to defriend her daughter in law....does she realize she how ridiculous she looks asking if that's how you are spelling her name..
I am blow away the most with the fact that she made such a big deal about "not knowing" the day but has yet to come see her?! WTF?
Yikes! She is seriously a piece of work. Thankfully your DH sees right through her. Sorry you have a BSC MIL.
And I agree with the others. Since you can't reason with crazy, just send her a TY and that should throw her off.
Uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuugh.
Im sorry you have a crazy mother-in-law. But I enjoy reading your stories, is that wrong of me? Hehe.
I also agree on sending her a really sickly sweet thank you note. Just for added effect, you should include a picture of Lily in it