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I had a feeling about this.
Sil advice please.
I need help. My husband and I have been married since May and dated for 2 years prior. I?ve always liked his family and thought that I was close with them. He has a sister my age and I always thought that we were good friends. We texted a lot, talked a lot, even started a book club together. What?s the problem? Well dh and i argue. Well we used to argue a lot. About stupid things. Come to find out that he was complaining about me to his ds the entire time. He would say things to her like ?I wouldn?t wish my life on anyone? he accused me of using him as my ?whipping boy? to her. He ran to her every time we disagreed about anything. Fast Forward to a couple months after our wedding. SIL deletes me off of her family list on face book. I asked her if she was mad at me and she pretended like she had no idea what I was talking about. So I just told her that was fine, but I hoped if she did have an issue with me she would tell me about it. Fast Forward a few weeks. DH and I get into a huge fight about him badmouthing me to his sister. He stays with at his parents for the weekend. SIL deletes me off her face book completely. And so does her dh. (pretty sure that was her doing) DH moves back in with me and tells his sister that they need to take a break from each other so we can work on our marriage and that her actions were not acceptable..blah blah blah? basically that I?m family and that?s not how you treat family. Somewhere in all of this I sent his sister an email trying to get things out on the table so we can talk about them and she responds to my email?but sends it to my husband. Still won?t talk to me at all. So obviously things are not ok with her.
It?s been two months since they stopped talking and about four months since I?ve talked to her. Now they have a family get together in about a month that I do not want to go to. I do not feel welcome or part of their family. I am so hurt by this. I thought my sil was my friend as well as my family. But apparently I was wrong. I feel like she couldn?t wait to be rid of me and was so happy when dh stayed at his parents house that she jumped the gun and just deleted me. I don?t think that she wants her brother to be married to me and apparently she told him that she didn?t want me at family things she has at her house. My husband says that if I don?t go to his family things that we are going to have to split up. He isn?t understand that I don?t feel comfortable going there. I need some advice.
Re: I had a feeling about this.
No, no... I'm sure, though, that other than this one little thing, he's a REALLY GREAT GUY!!!!!!!!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
"DH moves back in with me and tells his sister that they need to take a break from each other so we can work on our marriage and that her actions were not acceptable..blah blah blah? basically that I?m family and that?s not how you treat family."
But yet it's okay to treat his wife that way?
IMO, she's too boring and precictable for both you and Mags to bother C & P ing.
we did it at the same exact time...so both popped up...
Your husband is screwing up everything between you and your SIL. He's at fault and he needs to man up and stop running to her and bad mouthing/complaining about you.
It sounds like you and your husband are having issues. Focus on your husband first...then deal with the SIL.