October 2010 Weddings
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New to this board - just married this month
Hi all,
I wanted to see how the past year of married life has treated you.
Any advice for a newlywed?
What did you do for your first anniversary?
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO YOU ALL!
Re: New to this board - just married this month
Hi there! Congrats!! :-)
Keith and I were together for 11 years the day we got married, so while there has been some change, it's been pretty much the same as always.
My only advice is to keep your communication strong, and make sure you try to talk things out.
And, because I can tend to be a bit of a selfish person at times, try to always keep each others' feelings in mind with everything.
For our first anniversary (coming up on the 15th), we are staying at a fancy hotel downtown, with a nice dinner, and then a fun fancy breakfast at the hotel too. I'm excited.
Missing our little turkey.
Estimated Due Date 11/13/12 | Natural Miscarriage 4/17/12
I wouldn't say that there was much of a transition from engaged to married for us either (like PP mentioned), even though DH and I didn't know each other for 11 years before
We were already living together and had figured out our finances and such before getting married, so beyond feeling an even deeper connection between the two of us, married life hasn't been too strange.
Ditto Tisha on the communication, which is key to making sure you both are on the same page and stay on the same page.
As for anniversary plans, ours was yesterday (the 9th) and we went out to dinner at a nice restaurant (The Melting Pot) and in general had a lovely evening. DH bought me a single rose to mark our 1st anniv. and rather than buying cards for each other, we started a new tradition of popping in to a place like Hallmark and picking out the card we would have bought for the other if we were going to spend $4.99 on a card. It was sweet and dorky at the same time, so essentially, perfectly us.
We spent the day before working on our house which is also a wonderful way to connect with each other, at least for us. Working toward a common goal together (in our case, tiling our master bath) makes me even more aware of the two of us as a team. The muscle aches on our anniversary I probably could have done without though :P
Hi Rachelle!
Things learned:
1. Do your Thank You notes quickly - get them out of the way and you'll be happier.
2. Try and take pics with DH at least once a month - the first year goes by so quickly - it's fun to be able to go back to them (and hello, make a book of them on MyPublisher or SnapFish - instant anniversary present!).
3. Do something every month to keep the romance alive - a date, a weekend getaway, etc. - just something for the two of you. I found we'd spent a lot of energy on the wedding, but after a few months I was missing some of the romantic stuff we used to do. Leave post-it note love notes all over the house if he's going to come home first one day.
4. Use your wedding gifts - it's such a cool feeling to pull out the big serving bowl and go "OMG - this was a WEDDING GIFT!" - we just had a big party and I was a bit giddy about getting to use some of the stuff for the first time.
5. If you're changing your last name, do it fast to get it over with! And don't forget to do all the airline and hotel points places!
Thank you all so much. This is great advice. My Husband and I have been together for 8 years (we got married on our 8 year anniversary). I dont expect much to change other than a stronger connection. I am so happy to hear that you all have had a wonderful first year. I will definitely do the romantic things once a month, thats a great idea.
Congrats againn to you all!!!!
Congratulations and welcome to the board!
My husband and I had been together 6 1/2 years before getting married, living together for almost a year, so not a lot changed once we said our "I Do's" except I got an amazing sense of security.
My advice would be to let things go. I noticed after we got married that little things that never bothered me before about him started to bother me. I don't know if it was knowing that this was officially the person I was going to spend my life with or what, but I found myself nagging him about stupid little things. Eventually I learned to not worry so much about little things and to just let minor things go. My MIL actually wrote a quote in our guest book that said "Don't major on the minors" and it has really stuck with me.
Another piece of advice is to surprise each other now and then. Just last week my husband was working a nigt shift at work, so rather than sitting home and watching TV, I went to his work and surprised him. He can't do PDA at work, so I felt like we were young again and it was a first date or something because we were just standing there, two feet apart, flirting. Gosh that sounds lame lol but little things like that keep the spark alive.
As far as our anniversary, he had to work during the day, so afterwards we just went to dinner locally, came home and ate our cake and had a couple bottles of champagne, and wrote a postcard to ourselves which is our anniversary tradition that we started on our honeymoon.