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scared to watch wedding video
I know; it's ridiculous.
Here's the thing though. I hate watching video of myeself doing anything. There were also so many stupid things that went wrong on our wedding day -- limo forgot to pick up my parents so I was 45 minutes late for church. Other little things got missed. It just annoyed me. I should let it go but I've never been able to let anything go.
We still haven't even done our still photo album b/c I can't stand looking at the pictures. I want to kill the photographer. She had me pose for over a year before the wedding. She was the official photographer for a group I belong to & she "trained" me to look good in the publicicty shots. She'd take her time with every photo, every angle to make me look good but didn't do any of that for the wedding & as a result I look awful in every photo. I burst into tears on our HM when some one emailed photos of wedding. My dress was a bargain compromise & I think it drapes all wrong. I'm so annoyed that no-one suggested a petticoat otr anything to help it. The entire thing just makes me furious & sick to my stomach.
I didn't want a videographer. DH did. A client of mine is one & he gave us the package as a wedding gift. I'd blown him off for the last 3 years not making decisions about what I wanted in the video etc. I tried to pawn him off on DH but he kept coming back to me. (he's a trooper & I told him so) Yesterday he just showed up in my office with 8 copies & said he gave me all sorts of different styles.
DH wants to watch it tonight for our anniversary. I'm dreading it.
Did anybody else hate their photos? It's not like you can do them over.
Now what?
Re: scared to watch wedding video
I'm not going to lie, it's been almost 3 years and I still regret all the drama that happened at my wedding and I still have a grudge against the way many of DH's family acted. I didn't want to see my pictures, at all. Everyone kept asking us at the family christmas party if I had them yet and I was happy to say I didn't. I didn't want to remember.
I wish I hadn't done the wedding we did. It sux and at the time I thought it was going to be a wonderful day, but it wasn't. And DH and I had a horrible first year of marriage because of it.
But what I had to do, and hopefully this will help you, is realize that in the end we're married and we have been for this long. It was far from perfect and things that shouldn't have gone wrong did, but I have a husband now and that's what's important.
Watch the video. I'm sure, like me, you will see all the things you don't like. And you may have to watch it more than once to see the good. But if nothing else, do it for your DH, to make him happy and remember the day you became husband and wife.
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Thanks SSM&JLM. I appreciate that you had similiar concerns.
When I got home DH had flowers & presents etc. He didn't make me watch the video b/c he knew it was making me nutty. He's such a doll. That took so much pressure off . . . . maybe this weekend.
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I have the complete opposite going on right now:
During unpacking in the new home last weekend, i FINALLY found my wedding DVD, missing for, um, almost 3 years. We watched it once when we first got it, and now, around October 25th each year, just spend 2 days trying to find the damn thing. :-)