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June 2011
Re: *NolaSteph*
Well I felt like I needed to a) get out of the house for a few hours a week to keep my sanity and b) help contribute. We are surviving, but barely. Seriously. I miss having the extra income too much. So I went back to work at the after hours clinic I worked at when we got married. I like the place, the job itself is easy and it's really good pay. I am friends with everyone there, my cousin still works there - it was an easy in.
Anyway, I loved it. It was great for my personal sanity. But Genevieve was having a very hard time adjusting to me being away. She refused bottles, and solids. Would cry incessantly. Wouldn't nap unless she wore herself out from crying. Either my MIL or Jimmy would be with her and Gabby while I worked (part-time... only 15-20 hours a week average). On different occasions I had to leave work early, or leave and come back in order to go nurse her just to calm her down for a few minutes. Once, J brought her to the clinic and I sat in a back room nursing her. She was happy as can be, and began screaming as soon as we strapped her back into the car seat to go home. *sigh* Poor J couldn't handle it. And neither could MIL. In the end (after working for six weeks) we had a second pedi visit for Genna in as many weeks and the doc was concerned with her weight gain/percentages. He understood that she was going on a hunger strike because I wasn't around and we all assumed (doc included) that time alone would help her to "get over it." But yeah that wasn't working. So, I quit. And she is a much happier baby. She never cries. Granted I am with her 24/7, but yeah...
I'm not upset that I am home with my babies... just that I enjoyed the few hours a week that I was away. But really, it wasn't working out. Not to mention I had everyone under the sun saying I was a bad mother for wanting to work while my kid was at home screaming. I wanted to strangle MIL everytime she told me to quit. I was just trying to HELP, ya know? Ugh. I know I need to enjoy this time I have with them, and I do, but I'm not going to feel bad about wanting adult time too. Even if that time was spent working and not even enjoying myself.
I'm just frustrated. Excuse the vent.
we're battling some sleep issues right now....we're not sure what's up, but it might be from his antibiotics. he was doing great...he's always been a great sleeper. he's in his own bed now (just the crib with the front side off) and we just rock for a bit and he goes down awake and goes to sleep no issues. that was until the last 2 weeks...he screams whenever i lay him down and doesnt stop. ever. i started putting him to bed last night at 8pm and at 11 he was still awake. we gave up and threw him in bed with us and he slept there. i dont think he's scared...i just don't know what's different! it's driving me nuts though
God, we are still dealing with Gabby sleeping with us. I think it started because Genna was in the co-sleeper as a newborn. Well, we gave in because we were both sleep deprived. Before this she was always a great sleeper. STTN no problems, we could put her down awake and she would go to sleep within 10 minutes. Now, she refuses to sleep unless she is in our bed (nap time or bed time), and Genna isn't even in there anymore - she's been in her crib since about 10 weeks. When we try to move her in the middle of the night she wakes up and wont go back down unless she is in bed with us. This has got to end tho. We keep saying we will work on it, but it's been one thing after another (me going back to work, then both kids were sick, then J and I were both sick). We need to buckle down with it, tho.
Oh no I'm sorry it didn't work out!
I would just like to comment on the sleeping thing because it feels good to know that I'm not/wasn't alone and it's very very easy for people to judge about co-sleeping but you get to a point of exhaustion that it just becomes the best plan. A lady at work told me "N stop stressing over this...this is a very common practice in many other countries and sometimes you have to do what you have to do to make your family work."
Ava slept great until 4 months and then it was downhill...I was just getting used to getting back to work and was exhausted and my work was hurting so she started sleeping with us usually from about 2-when we woke up...but I wasn't getting great sleep because I'm a very light sleeper.
So 3 weeks ago especially being pregnant we said we have got to fix this and started CIO...we both were in tears. She was relentless y'all...there are tons of bite marks all over her very nice crib...I could sream haha
And 4 nights ago all of a sudden she started sleeping amazing...we even had to wake her up two mornings.
But we struggle with going down...it takes a good hour to hour and a half and then usually she has to be held for about 1/2 hour before we can put her in her crib...we agree that if that's what it takes we'll do it...life with sleep is so great...I seriously had forgotten...so maybe for the next 3 months before I have to get up to go to the bathroom every 10 minutes I'll get some sleep.
Anyways just wanted to say that I totally know your pain and glad I haven't been alone.
Oh I totally agree Cole that you gotta do what works best for your family. And it was working just fine and has been for uh six months now. I'm all for cosleeping. But to be honest, I miss my husband. lol I have no problems sleeping with Gabby between the two of us, but the fact that she refuses to sleep in her own room just really throws a kink into other aspects of life.
But yeah, you're not alone.
sorry you had to leave the job. I cannot even deal with the stress of finding a sitter for a few hours a week to get a part time job.. mommy guilt is the worst.
I have no judgement in the cosleeping thing but whatever the parents choose, gotta be consistent. Audrey only does well if we follow a routine. She was Ferberized and had to be retrained after getting a big girl bed. She does kisses with mommy, brushes teeth and story with daddy, glo worm and lovey in bed, white noise machine turned on, ceiling fan on low, black out curtains drawn.
see that's the strange thing...his schedule hasn't changed at all! we read 3 books, rock in the chair with whichever parent he asks for, and sing lightly. i'm thinking that we need a white noise machine for him. it's not loud in our house...but i'm wondering if it would help him to calm down.