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BR :(

So I got home for a LONG ASS day at work today after a long ass day at work yesterday to get ready for a long ass day at work tomorrow and I come home to a husband that wants to "talk"...Yep he told me tonight that he changed his mind and doesn't want a 2nd child...I'm devistated and have been crying ever sense...It is what it is and I'm done with the whole thing...I'm giving myself the good cry and will move on tomorrow...I can't change his mind and I'm done putting my body through the clomid cycles and emotional mess that comes with it. 

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  • I'm sorry you guys seemed to have ended up on different pages about #2 (((hugs))) and lots of love.
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  • wait, is he saying he NEVER wants another one, or just not right now? maybe it's just cold feet? 

    I'm so sorry you're going through this...and I'm sure the medications are not helping you feel like yourself in handling his sudden change in attitude.

    Is this something you guys could maybe just agree to table and discuss again in six months? 

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  • What Claire said. I'm thinking it's more cold feet because why else would he have okayed you starting the meds already? I'm so sorry you're going through this :( lots of hugs to you.
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  • I'm so sorry Rick and has been so back and forth about TTC #2. I just feel like you're never going to get any closure to his decision because he's gone back and forth so many times already. What if he comes to you in 6 months and says he changed his mind and wants #2?

    Lots of hugs to you!

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    I'm so sorry Rick and has been so back and forth about TTC #2. I just feel like you're never going to get any closure to his decision because he's gone back and forth so many times already. What if he comes to you in 6 months and says he changed his mind and wants #2?

    Lots of hugs to you!

    I told him last night that this was his chance for #2 - I am not going back on the meds in 6 months or 2 years or whatever...My body has been through enough.  I told him that he broke my heart and that I would get over it but I needed time to digest it all.  I spent a good portion of the night crying last night and digesting...I'm "okay" this morning but still heartbroken.  

    His issues (I understand them because I have some of my own) are that Josh is a  HANDFUL right now (twice on Wednesday he took his diaper off and played in his poop so Rick had to clean that up)...We both work a TON so Josh is with a sitter more than he is with us and he (Rick) doesn't want him to feel like we neglect him if we had another one.  

    Part of me thinks he will come around but I told him last night that I'm not willing to keep getting on the meds and off the meds because he has a day he likes the idea and then a day he doesn't...No thanks!  

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  • {{{hugs}}}} Alicia! I wouldn't want to be going on and off the meds either. I am sorry he keeps changing his mind.

    Two - Four can be challenging years. They are great because they are more independent but with that comes a lot of other challenges. I am sorry that Rick is basing his decision on the challenges as they are now, because they will go away. The challenging time is so brief in the long run.

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  • I'm really sorry to hear this, Alicia, I really don't have any advice or words of wisdom. Just know that I'm thinking of you and hoping you can find some peace in whatever decision you do make.
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  • So sorry to hear this Alicia!  I think this really needs to set in for you and for him.  Let him fully realize this is it, no changing his mind from here.  Obviously you don't want to force him into it, but you are the one who takes the drugs and goes through the emotional rollar coaster.  It is understandable that you don't want to do it again.  I hope you guys can figure this out and come to the final answer together. 
  • I'm so sorry Alicia, hopefully he's just freaking out and he can shake the cold feet.
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  • I am so sorry! ((Hugs))
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  • I'm sorry, Alicia!! I know how hard those meds are on your system (which is precisely why we are not having any more children after baby girl is born). However, DH and I are both on the same page with this. I hope that you can both come to some sort of closure one way or the other. (((HUGS)))
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