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I have a strange question...
I don't know where else to ask and I'm hoping someone has an idea for me. H's birthday is next month and I want to celebrate the day somehow, but I don't know what to do. I am having 4 quilts made from his clothes (one for me and each of the kids) and I was hoping they would be ready by his birthday, but I don't think they will. The only other thing I have come up with is that the kids and I can write him notes and tie them to balloons to let go (horrible for the earth, but I'm okay with that). His birthday is on a Thursday, and my big kids will be in school/mother's day out so the majority of the day is pretty open to do something just me. I'm planning on making his favorite dinner that night, but I want to do something else. Any ideas?
For those that don't know, H was killed in a motorcyle accident in June so this is the first of his birthdays without him.
Re: I have a strange question...
Did you two have a favorite thing you liked to do together? Maybe you could go out and do that. What about a favorite movie? I like the balloon idea.
I'm not too sure. I don't know what would be too difficult for you. I'm sorry for you loss.
Those are great ideas! I know you already do this a lot, but you could also watch your wedding video with them.
You should buy all the kids Thunder t-shirts to wear that day. I'm sure they already have some, but you know he'd like that!
I love the balloon idea! What about going to lunch with some of S's friends. It might be good to share fun memories and talk with people who knew him the best. Some other ideas:
-make his favorite cake
-plant a tree or flower garden
-Have the kids paint rocks or make birthday cards for S and leave them in a special place
-a butterfly release
-have a candle light prayer
You've got some really fabulous ideas here. I just wanted to add that whatever you do, it's ok. If you do happy things, that's perfectly ok! If you do sad things, that's perfectly ok! If you find yourself laughing out loud at sweet memories during a really sad time, that's ok! If you burst into tears during something otherwise lighthearted and fun, that's ok!
I know that logically you know all of that, but it never hurts to remind yourself of it once in a while
I think the balloon release is a great idea for the kids especially.
I hope you and your children find peace and comfort in whatever you decide to do that day.