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Curse of the tinydancers
Sorry ladies, I know I've been MIA again for the past month or so but school has certainly gotten in the way. I guess it must be the curse of the tinydancers or something because overall 2011 has been one of the worst years of my life. Aside from the fact that I'm so lucky to have an amazing DH and supportive family, life in 2011 hasn't exactly been enjoyable.
First off, I've completely lost touch with my sister-in-law because all she cares to do is be with her boyfriend (she's 21).
Ever since I got married I have been growing more and more distant from my friends. I have basically lost touch with all my single friends because all they want to do is party and drink every weekend. I have been feeling so depressed and essentially I feel like I have nobody to turn to.
I have been beyond stressed since March about school. I'm currently taking 2 graduate classes while working full-time and it is literally ruining my life. Since the beginning of September I have been doing homework everyday for hours, even on the weekends! (back story- I'm currently in a post bacc. program for an initial special education teacher certification moderate disabilities (k- 8) If all goes accordingly, and I pass my last MTEL (teaching license exam), I can student teach at the beginning of next year and I will officially be a teacher! If I don't pass I haven't figure out a plan B yet.
Then all of the sudden last month I had an issue with my car one day when I left work. I immediately brought my car in and the mechanic told me he thought an animal had chewed on some wire underneath my car. It ended up costing almost 800 to fix!!
I swear this list of horrible things just keeps going on and on. I'm honestly hoping that everything turns around for me because I don't know how much longer I can take this. I'm sorry for the long post, but I really just needed to get that out there. Thanks for reading & I would totally appreicate any positive vibes you could send my way! Thanks Nesties!
Re: Curse of the tinydancers
:-( You'll get through. We're here for you!
As for the friends drifting away, all of my friends are getting married now too, (and a few went before us) and the drifting thing still kinda happens to an extent. It's natural, you know?
But I agree about the single friends stuff...it really is a different mindset. Not that you can't go out and have fun just because you're married, but I've found with my married friends, "fun" is now really nice dinners and wine bars vs noisy clubs and regular bars. I mean, I was never a club gal anyways, but I used to go out dancing sometimes, and now the thought of pulsating music at such high a volume makes me want to puke.
I sound like I'm 85...But just know that you're not alone on the friends thing. This is a transition time in life, in a lot of ways, I think. And if you're on one side of the fence (married) and the majority of your friends aren't, they don't have the same priorities as you anymore. It's not bad, but it can definitely be difficult, sorry hun :-/
I think we are cursed! I hope things turn around for you soon. My friend is also getting a master's in special ed, but was fired as an aid last year & replaced by an ex-cop who wanted to bring his gun to class!! So I guess things can always be worse.
You just need to focus on the good things -- like you have a great husband, still have a job in this economy, etc.
My friends have also drifted, but try and reach out to them & see if they will just come over for dinner or get a drink/coffee with you. I am sure they need a break sometimes too. Good luck! Message me anytime if you want to talk.
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