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Who does the Cleaning?
Hey Ladies!
I am getting married in 2 weeks (AHH) and I was wondering if you and your SO discussed who was going to be doing the cleaning/cooking before you are married?
If so, how did you come to terms?
Thanks!
Re: Who does the Cleaning?
We absolutely discussed it. Just like we discussed whether we wanted children, how we would handle household money, pay bills, etc.
We hired a cleaning lady to come bi-weekly. We share cleaning in between.
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we both lived by ourselves or with roommates for several years before getting married so we're both pretty good about picking up after ourselves. We both do whatever needs to be done with a few exceptions. We never had one of those lists and to be honest, since our kid came along a couple of years ago, H probably does more housework than I do.
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we discussed it. i think, though, that the idea of "who's going to be doing the cleaning" is a weird concept...as if ONE of you is going to be doing all the cleaning? we have it broken it by jobs. and we have a cleaning service that comes twice a month. they do the big stuff. i do laundry, since i kind of like that job, and DH does dishes, since that grosses me out and he doesn't mind it. he does the lawn and takes out the trash, and i straighten up around the house. i definitely think it's something that should be talked out before it becomes one person's burden.
oh, and neither one of us cooks.
We never sat down and had a chat about it or anything, but over time we just realized which things each of us do and don't like to do, and fortunately for us it splits the chores pretty well.
For instance, FI seems to love to vacuum and do the laundry which I hate, but I don't mind cleaning the bathrooms (although I certainly don't like it!) and doing the dishes.
I would suggest if both of you don't seem to be on the same wavelength with doing chores, then it might be a good idea to talk about how you will divide and conquer, but if both of you are used to doing the chores then a routine will probably just happen naturally and I wouldn't worry about it so much.
Back before we had kids, we split the housework 50/50. We each got to pick the tasks we enjoyed or were best at and we went from there. We also split most of the cooking. Now that I'm a SAHM and we've got two kids under the age of 2, things have changed. Besides mowing the lawn and taking out the trash, DH doesn't have any other responsibilities around the house. His job requires him to work long hours so when he's home, I want him to be able to spend time with the girls and not worry about cleaning. He will still ocassionally cook dinner, but that's pretty rare. We have a housekeeper who comes biweekly and I handle all of the cleaning between visits.