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I hate Immigration
We are at the stage of filling out the paperwork for my permanent visa. It's all easy enough until I get to the part where we have to describe our "social commitment" and "why we have a valid marriage".
These two questions have done nothing but bring back the resentment that I've been able to finally suppress after a year.
Now I'm too bitter again to even begin formulating BS enough answers to make them happy. I mean I am assuming that "we have a valid marriage because he moved me to nowhere-ville and I didn't leave him" isn't exactly the answer they are looking for.
I see rum, lots and lots of rum, being involved in this...
ETA: I may DD this later.
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Re: I hate Immigration
I hear you. I hate how this world thinks it's soooo international and interconnected.
That is BS. No country is concerned with anything but keeping people out. It's infuriating.
I know the feeling. I am not quite ready to think about that but I know next year, I will have to. It was hard enough to formulate the answers when I was filling out the temporary visa application.
Good luck with it.
dortohyinAus, the temp application was easy. We were making enough that we could actually do things (being paid in Euros rocks!) and since I wasn't working, we could actually have a marriage and interact with people.
Not so much anymore.
Oh crap. I haven't given much thought to the permanent visa requirements. They'll be coming up for me in a few months as well. The only social commitment we have is medical appointments. I wonder how well that will go over? lol
There is a lot more to Oz than WA, FNQ and Melbourne. I hope the two of you find a place you can agree on sometime soon.
Well, I want to live in a place that has more than 100,000 people in the city (not a regional city, but an actual city) and has real employment opportunities. He wants to live in a place where a house doesn't cost 1 million plus and is 5" from the neighbors.
So, we are at a stalemate.
the ONLY good thing about living here is we were able to install solar panels, so our bills are $45 for the quarter and because we get so much rain, our water bill is between $8-$11 ever 6 months.
We live in a country town of less than 30,000 people. Housing prices are reasonable and we have pretty much all the amenities. I really love it here - but yeah the job market sucks, so I hear ya. We've talked about moving to the Adelaide Hills but DH's parents are here and they are nearly 80 now. We'd both hate to be so much farther away from them.
Oh Stever, I doubt it's that bad. I'm assuming you live in a typical US suburb that is located near a city.
Here, we live in a less than 600 person village (they claim the region has 3000, but the actual village only has 600). That closes at 3:30 when the tourists leave, we have one takeaway place that is open until 9. ONE.
The nearest "city" is 35 minutes away and it impossible to say what the real population is because it is a "regional city". so the 160,000 that it claims are actually spread out over 2900 sq kms. The part I would call a city probably only has about 15,000 in it. The only real employment is in hospitality. I have been told I'm over qualified for every other position I've applied for. May I mention that I only have a HS education? So yeah, I worked my azz off in marketing for 20 years so I can get up at 2:30 AM to go serve people coffee.
He is happier than a pig in slop.
He has the house and land he always wanted, in an area he has always wanted to live in, with a job he has always wanted. To him this is the perfect "retirement" to his years of working his butt off while at sea for months at a time.
He does care that I am miserable, and is willing to move to where ever I want to, but it's really only trading one set of problems for another. The costs nearer civilization are ridiculous. Sure I can make 100,000 a year in Sydney, but he wouldn't be able to make the other 100,000 a year we would need to fill the gap. And even then we wouldn't be able to have an acre of land. And he would be miserable in the city, just as I am out in the country. He also hates the cold, as much as I hate the heat. Although he considers 17 C to be cold, so he's just being a weather wussy ;-)
He does plan on upgrading his tickets so he can go work in Oil and Gas, but he can't earn that kind of money for another 2 years, as we are NOT going to pay his ex $2000 a month in CS. And yes that is an actual figure, not a guesstimate. (before anyone thinks I'm an evil step-mom, we KNOW our CS doesn't go to the kids because we send extra money to them directly each month for the stuff they need at school like shampoo and haircuts, while the ex is posting on FB that she just bought an iPhone 4 ($1000 here) and just bought a THIRD horse).
We're just kind of at a stand off until the kids are at least 18.
ETA: In his defense, when he lived here 8 years ago, the "city" was thriving and growing and he truly expected it to have grown up. He also truly expected me to be able to slid into the 50-60K a year job that we needed me to be at. He swears he didn't know it was going to be this bad. I just want a museum, and a real theater where real shows come to and well, culture, of any sort will do.