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Thoughts on a shower for a 2nd marriage
What are your thoughts on having a bridal shower for a bride who has already been down the aisle? As background, this is the groom's first wedding, bride's first wedding was about 6 years ago, she has a toddler and her and the groom already live together in a fully stocked house.
Re: Thoughts on a shower for a 2nd marriage
I don't really care - we had a shower even though we were both in our late 30's and owned homes and presumably already owned pots, pans, towels, dishes, etc. I don't really see the harm in celebrating someone's impending marriage w/ gifts. If individuals are offended by it, I assume they won't attend. People like to have parties and will take any excuse to have one, so I really don't see the harm.
I guess it depends on how it is being handled... It can be done very tastefully or it could be a total gift grab.
I was a second time bride and my family threw me a second shower. Granted, my situation was slightly different from the posted situation. I left my abusive first marriage with nothing but my clothes and my cat. As far as I know, no one raised any eyebrows over it. But, my family likes to pretend that my first marraige didn't ever happen.
Alternately, my sister remarried later in life after having a couple kids. She and her husband-to-be were fairly well established. I decided to host a cocktail party "shower" in their honor with a stock the bar theme. People brought a bottle of wine or a bottle of liquor. And, I have to admit, some of those got cracked open before the evening was over. We had a great time, and everyone really enjoyed it.
This is what I would do too.
Ditto PP - I think it completely depends on how it is handled. Cookout, stock the bar, celebrate the upcoming nuptials, etc - completely fine.
Yup, pretty much this. There's a nuanced difference between a gift-grabby, AW shower (for wedding or baby or anything) and a party to celebrate a big life moment which may or may not involve gifts. I can't give you a list of what makes either situation but you know it when you see it. (Making 2nd showers kinda like porn?
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Gift grabby parties can happen whether it's a first or second marriage, a first or second child. Gift grabby behavior is distasteful no matter what. Celebrating an exciting time in a person's life is not. IMO, of course.
I'm also fully supportive of baby showers for children who are not the first born.