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For those ttc/prego/have baby
I know a lot of girls on here are TTC/pregnant/already have a baby.
This is so random.... Please don't take this the wrong way at all! I'm just curious....everyone keeps asking us about babies and I find it kind of annoying. Every single time I'm not feeling well someone hints that I may be pregnant... I'm not and don't want to be.... why does it always resort to that tho!.... I STILL cringe at the thought of us having a baby. We both DO want to have kids....eventually.... but we're both just still in this "no way stage" with no thought of getting out of it anytime soon. I can't see myself having a kid in the near future unless it was an accident.... So I kind of want to know...
What makes you want to have a baby? Aside from financially, do you feel "ready"? What makes you "ready"? Aren't you going to miss your free time both for you and your time with H? I know you will still have "alone" time with him, but won't it be so different?
Re: For those ttc/prego/have baby
I always got annoyed when people were like "headache?! oh you must be ku!" That's frustrating regardless of where you are in your ttc journey.
I think MH and I knew we were ready when our lives no longer felt complete. We kind of felt like we were missing something. Don't get me wrong sometimes I still think that we're not ready, that we need more "us" time. Sometimes I don't feel ready to have a LO.
MH and I are also celebrating/remembering/mourning our "old" life by taking lots of mini vacations before baby comes. I'm hoping this will help with being ready to lose some of our free time.
I think it ultimately comes down to when you're ready, you'll know.
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Ugh it gets annoying. DH's family doesn't even ask when we're going to have kids, they just say, "are you pregnant?" "Ohh, let's offer her a drink to see if shes KU"
For a while, we were so anti babies for a long time...and then, things just kind of changed. We have a lot of nieces and nephews, and we just felt like we really wanted that part of our life to start.
We also really wanted our kids to be close to our other nieces and nephews, and all of our SILs are pretty much closing up shop this year, after having their last babies. That kind of was an excuse to start trying, even though we felt ready.
We used to go out a lot, but we've really slowed down over the past year. I also have quite a few friends who have babies now, and other friends who would love to have a baby around, so I don't feel like I would be the odd person out by having children.
Overall, It just felt right.
It's annoying whether you're trying or not. People don't know how to mind their own business. I broke down crying at work over the summer (not professional but whatevs) when a coworker asked if I was trying - just so happened that AF showed up that morning. Luckily she understood, was embarrassed and gave me a hug and we had a nice talk. But times like that definitely suck.
DH and I have always wanted to be parents. We want to have them on the younger side, and I see so many great qualities in him as a father (and hopefully he sees those maternal things in me, he tells me he does)! When we were in pre-cana before the wedding we talked about "timing", since we knew we wanted to try sooner rather than later. It basically came down to enjoying our first year of marriage together, making sure our jobs were secure, and paying off our credit card debt.
We've been together 9 years, so it's not like we feel like we haven't really had time together. We're ready to start this next phase in our lives. And even when I get pregnant, there's still 9 months before baby. We still make plans, go out when we feel like it, and take little weekends away. We know it'll be a big change, but I think the "being ready" part is the willingness to have that kind of change in our lives.
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We're not trying but I agree 100% with what is bolded above. We both want kids and if we were settled we probably would be TTC. I won't be finished with school until May and then we'll probably be moving, so it makes no financial sense, nor is it responsible to bring a child into our relationship right now. We've both agreed that I should have had a stable job for preferably a year before we start trying for maternity leave purposes. It means that we have to wait awhile to have kids but it gives us plenty of time to take trips and buy things for ourselves that we can't do afterwards. That's actually become a joke with us - when one of us wants something expensive we just say "but I only have a few years left to buy things for myself!" lol
We are not TTC at the moment, but I can tell you that I think there is nothing specific that makes you want to have a baby. It's a feeling in your heart that develops over time, it doesn't happen overnight. We are not financially ready right now and H is not mentally ready. We're both young and, as H claims, too selfish for a baby right now.
I guess I'm saying there's all kinds of stages, they happen naturally (except the financial I guess) and you really don't have to worry about it.
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Yes! Thanks for asking this question; it's definitely something I've wondered about recently. It's nice to know I'm not missing a "mom gene" or something...
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LMAO same here