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Early Thankgiving Drama
So, I am hosting a Thanksgiving Dinner at my house on Nov. 5 for my aunt and uncle. My whole family is coming. (yes I know it is early but they are missionaries overseas and leaving on Nov. 13 to go back). My aunt messages me today, asks me if I invited my grandpa (which I had), and then tells me I have to call him TODAY and tell him to come. Seriously?!?!?! I already called him earlier this week.
The other thing that is bothering me, everyone else who is coming asked what they could bring. I would tell them this or that but I don't expect anyone to bring anything, I am hosting it. But could you at least ask if you could bring anything?
Re: Early Thankgiving Drama
She "messages"you? ignore. She calls you? "Thanks aunt. I've taken care of it". SHe pushes? "again, aunt - I've taken care of it. THanks for the call. I have to go now.".
The not offering to bring something.... I don't know. You can't have it both ways. You don't expect them to bring anything, but you expect them to ask, and when they do, you tell them something to bring.
So... actually, yes, you do expect them to bring something. WHich is fine- just be honest about it!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I'm with the pp. And if you don't want people to bring food, why do you care if they offer?
Yep. This.
This.
And if you think this rates as drama, maybe you shouldn't be hosting large family events.
LOL at TODAY. ugh. make sure you have wine
and that's our 6th anniversary.
"I already called him, thanks for checking." Repeat if necessary. If she persists, tell her to call him herself if she's so concerned, and then get off the phone with her (and don't answer if she calls back).
Regarding her not bringing anything - who cares? Some people don't ask and just bring something on the day-of. Some people bring nothing. Why is this such a problem?
Like PPs said, chill out. She may be annoying, but if you're THIS annoyed about it then you really need to learn to deal with little annoyances better than this.
Even if you have a family where "everybody brings a dish," your aunt is flying in from somewhere, and you expect her to cook something, too? Or run to a liquor store on Thanksgiving day? That is very strange.
As for your Grandpa "thanks, Aunt, I've already invited him."
If your grandpa is the type who needs to be begged to attend Thanksgiving, you need to deal with that the way YOU want. Either call and beg (if it is that important to you) or don't beg and let him come or not come.
What, exactly, are you complaining about?