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On a scale of 1 to 10, how mean of a mom am I?
Tman has half days on Wednesdays so he's home with me now. He had a good day at school today so after lunch when he asked me for some ice cream, I obliged. However, he started eating like a big giant pig. We have taught him table manners since he was very VERY young, so he knows how to behave. I asked him at least twice to have good manners, the third time (or maybe fourth), I told him that if he did it again (told him specifically what I was referring to), I was pouring out the rest. He did it again (actually twice more), so I made him put his bowl in the sink. He'd already eaten at least half. He ran off into his room and wailed for probably almost 5 minutes (mostly fake and to try to get my attention, but he was obviously very upset as well).
So, give it to me straight. Was I too hard on my 6 year old eating his treat like a pig?
Bad table manners make me want to barf, so I could understand if I am being too hard on him. I am overly sensitive to it.
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Re: On a scale of 1 to 10, how mean of a mom am I?
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i am not a mom so i'm not sure but i probably would have taken it too.
also, i would refrain from doing giving it in the future.. but i'm mean. lol.
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this. you deserve an awesome mom award, if anything! it's hard for parents to follow through with threats..especially when it comes to taking things away from the kids that they enjoy, and/or costs money. you did perfectly to teach tman how to be well mannered.
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Ditto. That's how to parent, IMO. One of the few things I remember from my child psych class was if you want to be taken seriously when it comes to discipline, when you issue a warning and state the consequences of continuing with the bad behavior, you have to follow through, which you did. They also stated to make sure the consequences were in line with the bad behavior, which yours was. If you ask me, you did good. He might be mad at you now, but it sounds like you're raising a responsible child who will be a respectful contributing member of society.
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No, not a mean mom at all. You had expectations, you asked him to stop. He didn't.
Just a caveat. When growing up, my mom had a whole lot of really random rules she forced on us. Rules she didn't follow herself cause it was her house - which I guess is valid. Whatever. But basically she created an environment where even breathing wrong would mean we were breaking rules, so eventually? We just stopped caring about her rules and broke them without her knowing cause there were just so many of them to keep track of. I don't think my mom was a mean mom, but it was rough growing up in that kind of house.
That's why I said it depends on what bad manners are. I get annoyed w/ DH when he eats with his mouth open or too loud...I lots of personal, probably irrational, irritations. And my dad sometimes had really stupid rules for us. So, for a kid, if it's something relatively harmless (like making noises while eating or making too much noise w/ spoon hitting bowl), I'd probably let it go. But it if it's really inappropriate (spitting out food, making a huge mess) I'd tell him to stop and then take it away.