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Personal Question for Mama's
How is your sex life after baby?
Different? The same? You want more? Less?
I'm curious because our sex life is NOT the same. I'm just not into it at all. Previously I was the one that was always instigating it at least everyday, if not every other day. But now? Meh.
I feel bad and need to get back into it.
I think breastfeeding plays a part in it, as well as exhaustion. The fact that I' extremely uncomfortable with my post baby body...Ryan hasn't pressured me at all. He completely understands, but I know he's a bit frustrated.
Am I the only one?
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Re: Personal Question for Mama's
It took us about 5 months to get back to "normal" for us. I agree that a PP body image change was tough-I never regained my "toning" post baby and I felt fat and lazy. Part also was that we never get time to ourselves to just be "us". When we want time alone we have to hire a babysitter and leave our home. It's hard to connect with your SO emotionally if all you discuss is the kiddo and you never get any time without him/her.
Here's what we did:
-Walks with Anders, where we would talk and get a little family timeand exercise.
-"baby free" time-we stop all work and baby discussion within a 1/2 hour of him going to bed
-independence-I always felt like I was "stuck" at the house with Anders and S never did anything with him. S started taking him out on errands, to the park after work, etc... and I spend the time doing whatever I feel like. It sounds silly, but it totally helps me feel more human
We still do all of it now, but between being pregnant and S studying for hs PE test/his current work schedule, we only see each other for about 2 hours/day. I'm sure we will get things back to "normal" after 2.0, but right now I'm just looking forward to S being done his test next week so we can eat dinner together.
I agree with Megan, it took about 5 months for us too, but since then it has been way better than it was before (that could be because I'm not on the pill though, I found I had next to no sex drive on it). It hurts sometimes where I tore, but after we found what works and what doesn't, things got a lot better for both of us.
It took a little while for me to get used to my PP body too... by belly is less than flattering these days, and I still have a rough time looking in the mirror sometimes, but I'm trying my best to embrace what I've got. Lance is always encouraging when it comes to my body, which makes it easier.
Have you done anything lately to get pampered? I got my hair cut back in July and couldn't believe the difference I felt self-esteem wise. Sometimes you've just got to go out and have some you time to recharge and get feeling 'sexy' again
Not at all. It still hurts me most of the time.
First time was 3 months pp and it hurt like a bizatch. No lie. And I bled. I also had third degree tears. It eventually got much better and I think I'm pretty recovered. A little sore at times. A lot dryness from breastfeeding that needs to be worked around.I definitely cannot do multiple times in a day without pain -- tried that on vacation. Yikes!
I don't think my drive is less, but there is a baby who wakes up early, or cries, or exhausted parents. So, we have to work around that.
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our sex life sucks. eli is 14 months but still up multiple times a night and i am nursing. between exhaustion and wondering if baby is going to interrupt us (which he has many times) there isn't much of a mood. Eli is a light sleeper and wakes up when we flush the toilet so we have to be very quiet.
It still is a bit uncomfortable but not bad and when we have it and E doesn't interrupt its great its just getting started that is our problem because we want to sleep.
This really concerns/worries me. Have you discussed this with your doctor/pedi?
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What does your doctor say about Eli's nursing habits? I know to each his/her own, but I was a little shocked to read that he's still nursing 8 times a day at 14 months old. Has the doctor suggested cutting back in the amount of times you nurse him each day, to help regulate his sleep pattern and everything? Maybe then you guys would get more sleep (and sexytime)?
she says her kids were the same until they were 2 nursing at night and up multiple times.
she said its fine. he didn't want anything to do with real food until just recently so all his calories were coming from breast milk. he has a oral sensory problem which causes a lot of problems with him eating food. If its not corrected by age 2 they will refer him to an occupational therapist but for now we have different things to work on with him at home. She also said i could try to cut out night time feedings but when he isn't teething we are only up 1-2 times a night and i don't mind that so much since 1 time is always before i go to bed. the biggest damper on our sex life is that the slightest noise wakes him up and he has a loud fan on in his room even.
Believe it or not with a CS it still can hurt PP.
I knew this. I was just wondering if it was comparable.
I don't know how to compare, since I've never had a vaginal delivery. My guess would be it hurts more after a vaginal delivery because of the obvious factor of the baby coming out and then the fact that you can have tearing and stuff. For me, I labored for 9 hours so I'm guessing it's the fact that I still went through the process of laboring, dilating and the pure fact that you your uterus cut open.
I think some of it too can have to do with the fact that you are going 6 weeks or longer without doing it!