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*runs into sound proof thread and screams*
I am SO mad right now I don't even know what to do. BTW this is long, you don't have to read it I just have to vent.
So I got the DMV on the phone right when they opened and they told me H's orders said his HoR was in California, not Nevada, so they couldn't re-register his car....
His Captain changed his HoR (without his approval).
So we moved to California after H graduated, because he was employed by the University....he had no job after he graduated and I was miserable at both my jobs so I asked H if we could move to CA so I could be near my family before he started TBS.
We moved in May after his graduation, believing we would only be staying with my parents for a few months, until TBS that Oct. Well TBS was delayed a year, so we lived in CA for about 18 months.
H kept NV residency, used a buddy's address, etc.
But his Captain changed his HoR so we both blame her.
So H blames me because I wanted to be near my family.
I blame him for trying to scam the system because he doesn't want to pay CA taxes if we get stationed at 29, Pendleton or Miramar.
So now H is pissed at me, saying good job, you just lost us 10 % of our income for the rest of our lives...nice one. I'm sorry, but at the time, it wasn't worth it to me to live in a place where he had no job, my jobs were awful and we had NO family. Yet he is convinced I just wanted him to be a California resident. The whole thing is just a clusterfvck.
So he called me just now while they're at chow and I told him to call the chick at the DMV because they don't want to talk to me anymore.
*bangs head on coffee table*
Re: *runs into sound proof thread and screams*
Well, regardless of who made what decision, that's a really punk thing for him to say.
Agreed. He owes you an apology.
Agreed! His argument is that he's trying to save us money. And we would never have had this problem if I didn't want to move back to California. Grrrrr.
His argument is a punk argument. He agreed. Together you made a decision for your family. He's a punk.
It's kind of a moot point, but one cannot change their home of record. They can change their state of legal residence, but not their home of record. http://usmilitary.about.com/cs/militarylaw1/a/homeofrecord.htm
We had to jump through hoops at Finance to change residency (they sent us to legal for a briefing
, so I'm surprised someone was able to fraudulently do so on your husband's behalf.
Regardless, your husband sounds douchetastic.
Agreed, he was definitely douchetastic on the phone. He did at least apologize....
One way to minimize that behavior is to let him make his own phone calls. I'm sure I'm viewed as a crappy wife at times because I don't make calls for Joe. I let him go to TMO on his own even though chances are I'll have to go for my own stuff, and I even make him go to the legal office to talk to an attorney for legit help rather than doing it for him.
<---Meaniehead Ojo
I understand helping out to make things easier for the family, but you being blamed for something of this nature is not benefitting anybody. If he has time to treat you this way, he can surely find time to make his own damn calls.
I agree. He usually does his own stuff. He tried to call the DMV the night before, but didn't get released in time to get anything done (yay time difference!) So I was helping out today.....but I don't see that happening much in the future.