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I don't know where I was going with this.
So I have been holed up lately due to getting 3 of my wisdom teeth pulled last Friday. Which they just numbed and yanked, and I drove myself to and from. And then I also got sick because of all the traveling I did prior (to CA, back to IL, one day back at work, then the teeth pulling). So basically I have been a hermit for about a week and gone completely an entire week prior. And the more I sit around, watching my apartment get messier and messier because I haven't cleaned either (I clean on weekends usually and last weekend i was doped up on Tylenol with codeine, will be tackling that this weekend) I keep thinking I really want someone in my life. But here is the thing, I am totally unmotivated to do it at the same time. The last thing I want to do, is online dating. I have zero interest in making a freaking profile and then combing through guys on there. Like I want someone around, but then I also don't. Which really I think just means I don't. I don't know if it is I'm not ready to compromise right now, or I haven't met the person I'm willing to compromise for.
I eat lunch with a group of people, I'm the only one who is single. One of them is married, and the rest are all in relationships, long term relationships, not hopping from bed to bed. I feel like I'm at this awkward age where it is really hard to find someone. And I think it is harder where I am now, in the midwest because you have people in my age bracket, who are mostly married or are in the relationship that is going to lead them to marriage. I feel like the only guys left are really young and still have a lot to learn about life in general who I don't relate with at all, or they are much older and are in a totally different part of their life then I am in mine, where I am the immature one with little to no life experience (comparatively).
I have no idea what I plan on accomplishing by writing this, I guess I just need to get my thoughts out. And I do have plans to go out this weekend, alone, yet again. Don't get me wrong, I am making friends here, I'm just the only single one.
Re: I don't know where I was going with this.
I get the part about not wanting to invest the energy into online dating. I also thought that in my area there were only people who were married or in relationships...until I bit the bullet and got online and realized how many single men were out there.
If you're not ready to date online that's totally your call, but you can always sign up for free and see what kind of responses you get. I didn't want to put up some complicated profile so I just typed out 200 words to the extent of, "I'm fun-loving and looking for someone with integrity, a sense of humor and passion for life...the rest we can figure out in person."
I'm not jumping into a serious relationship right now but it's nice to get out there (out of the house) and meet new people. I'm glad you're getting out with friends though. Feel better with the teeth and good luck cleaning this weekend
Online dating is a lot of work. If you aren't entirely sure that you want to put in the effort, why not wait? I was single over a year before I did online dating. My motto during that year was "if I meet someone great, if I don't that's great too". Or try one of the free sites. Are there any clubs/hobbies that you can join that will keep you busy and meeting new people (not just potential mates)?
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