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Re: Poll: How long have you been married?
We've been married 2 years and 3 months.
A lot has changed, we got married very quickly into our relationship (8 months). We had to get married, it was either that or I go back to the US and we break up. We both decided we would rather get married and be together than break up and regret something.
Our relationship has only become better since being married, no regrets on our quick decision
We've been married for a year and 10 months. I can't say that things have changed much since the first year, but things changed drastically in the first year for us.
When we had been married for about 8 months, my DH suddenly got very ill and became disabled. So things took a dramatic turn at that point. He got better for awhile, but about 5 or 6 weeks ago he took another turn for the worse and I thought I was going to lose him. He's been in hospital for two and a half weeks now and is expected to be there for quite awhile yet, but he is showing signs of improvement so I have hope.
As you can imagine this has been difficult for both of us and for our marriage. But even knowing what I know now, I'd do it all over again. I feel our marriage is still quite strong, and maybe stronger for what we've been through.
We've been married for 10 1/2 years.
So much has changed since we got married. First of all, we were together a year before getting married, and I had just turned 22. Needless to say, both of us have grown up quite a bit since getting married. We were dealing with a long distance relationship, and got married basically to live together. Our first year was filled with fighting, and chaos. I moved to Germany and resented DH for making me give up on my life.
10 years later, we just get each other. Not that every day is blissful, but it is a really strong relationship.
We've been married 3.5yrs. We moved abroad about 6mos into our marriage, so our life has definitely changed-- we're far more dependent on each other here than we were at home.
That said, I don't think that our actual relationship (the way we communicate with each other, how we treat each other, etc) has changed much since being married.
I should add we were engaged for 2yrs and lived together for about 18mos of that prior to getting married, so I think we knew what to expect. I'd say moving in together (5yrs after we met) had at least as big an impact on our relationship. Even though we had known each other for a fairly long time, sharing a small space definitely required a bit of redefining expectations/willingness to share/compromise/etc.
Bluegirl, I'm glad you and your DH are getting through these things as a strong couple. I hope things keep improving.
We've been married legally for over a year, less than that for our family/religious ceremony. But we've been living together for 3 years now.
The biggest thing that's changed is that I'm working now. When we were in Canada I didn't have a work permit so we fell into easy roles of housewife/ working husband. Now I'm working and going to school so I'm stressed and I have to push DH to help out around the house more. That's been an adjustment, but we're pulling through. I imagine each new stage in our life will require adjustments like this.
Bluegirl, I hope your husband continues to improve and you can have him home with you soon.
DH and I have been married for 6 years and together for over 11. We lived together for a couple years before getting married too. It's hard to say what's changed... we were 19 when we got together and 31 now so everything is different! We moved here a few months after getting married so our whole married life is here. I think we've grown up a lot. Despite all our changes, he's always my favourite person to hang out with and we find each other hilarious which I think is important!!
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We've been married 4 years and 2 months. Things for us have changed dramatically since our first year. I've grown up a lot, since I was 22 and never lived on my own when we got married. DH was 25 and still lived with his parents.
We've started growing into the people we want each other to be, but there's a lot of room to grow. We have a very strong marriage from everything we've been through, and love each other more every day. Not every day is a picnic, but most days are quite happy.
Bluegirl- I am so sorry that your DH is ill again. I remember how scared you were when he first got sick. I am pleased that things are looking up. I will keep him in my thoughts and prayers.
3 years. We had some real doozies of fights. But we have learned from them, but I am still learning more about DH and how he processes things, which is much different than me.
9 years. Yes. When we married, I was the one working abroad, in Madrid, and we had to move back to the US because of crappy residency issues for DH. (My silly company couldn't help me figure out the fiance visa stuff and wanted us to live in separate countries just after marrying for an indefinite amount of time.)
Now, we have been living in NYC for 9 years, have accumulated 2 graduate degrees between us, have switched jobs and careers, owned 2 separate homes, have a daughter and are about to move abroad again, this time to Paris.
9 years ago, I could have totally imagined myself in Paris with DH. I had no idea all the other stuff would happen in between Madrid and Paris or that we would both be in completely different careers. And I didn't think we'd ever be living abroad again after we had a child.
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I'm sorry to hear your husband isn't well Blue, sending healthy vibes his way!
DH and I have been married for a little over 3 years. We spent our first year in Prague, but I wouldn't say things have changed that much between us. So far we've made it through the big life changes pretty steadily. Of course moving abroad and back, new jobs, new towns, and new apartments don't really compare to bigger stuff like babies and so on, so we'll see how all that goes!
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we've been married 6 years
no, not a lot has changed for us - we had already been together for 5 years when we got married, and had lived together, so the day to day didn't change really - well, other than that we had a child now
but she came along later!
Bluegirl - I hope your H gets out of hospital & gets better soon.
It's been almost 6 years. Things haven't changed much, we'd been together for 8 years and lived together for 5 years before getting married so I guess we knew what we were in for... the bit that changed things most since the beginning of our relationship was the moving in part/getting used to share a space.
-6 months.
I definitely think things have changed a lot since the first year. For starters, we were married then.
We've been married for 1 year and 5 months, but we have been together almost 10 years! We moved in together in Oct 2008, so I think I have felt married for about 3 years. Nothing has really changed since we got married, but I do feel a stronger sense of committment and settled-ness. It's really nice
I love being married!
I think things will change a lot in the next few years, when we start having kids, buy a house, and move back to the states. We're kinda in limbo out here - separated from family & friends, and more focused on each other. I think it will be a big adjustment going back.
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