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Another S/O the ball: Woman SM's & uniforms
Do you think women who are the SM should have to wear their uniform to their unit's ball?
Yes. No special dressing allowed just because you have a vagina.
Re: Another S/O the ball: Woman SM's & uniforms
Of course! I'm not even down for the changing after the ceremony before the dancing. The boys don't change.
Of course, if I get in, I'm wearing that thing every chance I get. Weddings, etc.
Agreed.
I know for our ball a lot of the female officers in H's squad didn't go because they didn't want to wear their mess dress.
Part of me feels bad because the female mess dress/blues are not very flattering (at least for AF). But I think what it stands for, and the pride one gets from wearing it -- should outweigh the actual look. I don't have to do sh!t to wear a ball gown, except shell out some $. KWIM?
Yup!
Ojo wore hers in my wedding, and I thought she looked great! But I totally agree on the pride aspect.
Well, the female uniforms are pretty hideous. My friends don't feel at all attractive in theirs, and I can understand wanting to look good at a formal event. The guys are all considered hot in mess dress, but the women are frumpy. It's kind of a big mental discrepancy.
That said, them's the breaks. No special vag treatment. I'm just sympathetic to the whines
At past events I've seen females in DH's classes wear theirs. Most of them omit the hideous (optional) tiara and they look just fine. The dark yellow cummerbund looks no better on the women than it does on the men, but that's a trouble that they all share.
I don't think anyone said it makes a woman less committed, but why the special privileges? I just don't get it.
So did the guys get to wear tuxes? Every time I've seen female Marines change after the ceremony part of the ball, the males have grumbled about it. I would prefer not to give guys a reason to see their female counterparts even more differently than they already do. If I get in, I don't want to give my Marines any reason to see me as more privileged or special than they are based only on sex. RHIP, maybe, but S[ex]HIP? No thanks.
For me it depends. The ball we're going to next weekend I was told not to come in uniform by my command because it's a change of command/senior leader conference that my husband is attending. That particular event, I will be his wife, not an NCO. Otherwise, yes, I'd wear it.
ETA - And yes for our balls, guys can wear tuxes if their command excuses them from their uniform.
I actually don't really care. It's not something I've spent much time thinking about. Obviously, if the command puts out directives on what should be worn, servicemembers should follow that. As a guest at a ball, it helps me figure out who the servicemembers are, but other than that, I don't see a lot of difference between it.
But, I've had no desire, intent, or experience in wearing such a uniform, so my opinion really shouldn't matter much, anyways...