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KSOR-- what would you do?
I got a fb message today from a girl I volunteered with when I lived in FL. We went to an event together a year ago, and split a hotel room four ways ($50 each). She's just NOW messaging me to tell me she never cashed the check and requesting a new one.
I'm just wondering why she never cashed the check from a year ago. I was still with STBXH at that point. Money was not an issue while I was married. I now live paycheck to paycheck-- while I get to have fun, it's budgeted fun, and I am working on building my savings back up and getting out of debt. This $50 is an unexpected expense and will put me in a very tight spot with my bills if I paid her now (I just had a vet trip that was a little more than I had budgeted for).
Friends are telling me that what she's doing is bull and not to pay her. I'm tempted to follow that advice, but I want to do the right thing. What would you do?
Re: KSOR-- what would you do?
I see 2 solutions here:
1. you ignore the request because she missed her chance
2. you explain your new situation saying you can't pay her now and you have to budget this new expense.
If, IF, you decide to pay her, I'd just tell her "I can't afford to give you the entire amount now. I'll send it to you as I can".
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I agree with ECB. If you decide to pay her and she gives you grief for not paying it all up front, tell her she obviously doesn't need the money that badly so she can suck it up waiting another few months to get it all.
i agree with PPs, I'd say ignore her, too bad.
And I'd like to add that she's probably in a similar situation to yours- needs/wants that $50 now, but she obviously didnt need it right then or she'd have cashed the check.
I'd probably just drop the issue and try to ignore her, but if you wanted to satisfy your curiosity, can you find out what happened to the money the other 2 girls put in? Did she cash their checks or did they all get that message?