BR: Slightly nervous (not BFP)

Loveofjoe11 · October 2011

Tomorrow I'm spending the day with one of my dear friends who is due a week before I was due. The last time I saw her was when I told her I was pregnant and vice versa.

I know I'm going to look at her and automatically think I should have the same bump she has right now. I know this and I'm slightly nervous. I've seen several other pregnant ladies, but they haven't been one of my best friends. I was so excited to be pregnant together and now we're not. I feel no degree of anger towards her, she could not change how things happened, but I am aware of my jealousy.

She was my faith buddy in college and she helped me grow so much in my faith. Since that's been slacking lately, I asked if I could go to church with her tomorrow. I'm very much looking forward to all of this, but I don't want her to feel bad that we don't have the same bump or that she can't talk about her pregnancy. I know it's going to be hard though.

ColleenS629 · October 2011

Good luck! I had a friend that was due a couple weeks before me with the baby I lost. I couldn't bring myself to see her until her baby was 5ish months old. Even then, I couldn't stop myself from thinking that I should have a baby that age/ size/ etc. I was a shitty friend but I couldn't help it.

RazzleDazzleJAM · October 2011

This would be a tough situation to be in but could you just talk to her about it if you are ready? It sounds like she is a great friend and her strength in her faith may be able to help you in this tough time. I'm sure she will be understanding with any amount of pregnancy talk, even if it is non-existent. Good luck tomorrow, I will be thinking of you.

TeacherTiff · October 2011

((hugs))

Mrs.MillerJune2008 · October 2011

Thinking of you today!! I agree that, if you feel comfortable, you may want to talk it over with your friend. Sometimes all people need is a friendly reminder to be sensitive before they accidentally say something hurtful. I don't know about your friend (who sounds fabulous btw!), but I can definitely speak before thinking and accidentally hurt people I never would otherwise. ((HUGS)) Hope it goes okay today!