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Had our first appt.
We had our first appointment today!!! Originally it was just to confirm the preg and then we'd go back in a week for the U/S. We ended up waiting a loooong time, and then figured out why. The lady right before us was pretty far along, but couldn't feel her baby move. When they did her U/S they couldn't find a heartbeat. I have never heard anyone cry like that before in my life and I can't imagine what she was feeling. Her small daughter (about 3) was there with her, and kept saying "mommy, don't cry."
When we got called in they had already confirmed my pregnancy via urine test, but because everyone was feeling so sensitive after this lady's loss they just really wanted to try and find my baby's heartbeat. We heard it. It was amazing. Like a steady train. A-MA-ZING. FI and I both teared up, as well as my ob. Then they decided to let us see the baby so we have our first picture 
. My ob said it was really neat that we could hear the heartbeat because of the way baby was positioned, and that it is extremely strong. I kind of shifted my position and sort of did a crunch on the table and baby scooted around a little. It waved its little arms and kicked its legs. It was beautiful.
Re: Had our first appt.
I'm glad you had a good appointment... it's such a special special time.
My heart absolutely breaks into 1000 pieces for that woman.
How exciting for you! That is definitely one of the best moments of a pregnancy (short of actually meeting the baby of course)!
How heartbreaking for the other woman; I just can't imagine.
what an amazing day! : )
i've known two people who have gone through the situation of the woman before you. i can't imagine how that could feel... but i'm so glad your little monkey's heartbeat was so strong to kind of maybe pull the staff back into a happy place.
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I just don't even know what to say about the woman before you. I get a lump in my throat just thinking about her and about everyone who had to experience that today.
What a joyful time for you guys though! Congratulations on the fantastic appointment.
Congrats on having a wonderful appointment and getting great news!
My heart and prayers are with the woman before you. I just couldn't imagine what she is going through and I pray she (and her family) finds peace.
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Ditto
That heartbeat is one of the most beautiful sounds in the world, isn't it? I'm glad you got to hear it!
But OMG, how awful for the other family. I'll keep them in my prayers.
I say the other girl was pretty far along, but I don't know how far. She definitely had a bump, but I have heard that when its your second (or third or fourth) pg you show earlier...either way, that doesn't matter, it would be equally terrible no matter how far she was.
She arrived (with her mom to watch her LO) right after FI and I did, and for a bit we were the only people in the waiting room so I overheard her tell her mom it was just a heartbeat check and maybe measurement (?) so it would be a quick visit.
After I got called back to fill out initial paperwork and sign consent forms she got called back and put in a room. They took me to do my urine test and gave me my confirmation and then had FI and I wait in a kind of interim waiting room (not the intitial one) for an empty private room. The little area just happened to be right outside this girls room, so as everything happened, we heard it. Initially we heard the hysterical crying. When I say I have never heard anything like it, I mean it. It was the most painful sounding...words don't describe it...FI and I looked at each other in a bit of shock. We could hear them say "there is no way you could have known. There was nothing you could do." So true, but that doesn't make HER feel any peace. My OB walked out and was sniffling...I knew it was bad. I DIDN'T know it was that girl until they brought her daughter out. hearing her daughter repeat "Mommy, don't cry" broke every heart in that place. Then you could tell she made a phone call because we could hear her say "they couldn't find the heartbeat" over and over, and then pause, like someone was answering her. FI just took a sharp inhale and said "ohmygod", as in "how terrible for this woman, this is awful". I'll be honest, I think every person--the doctors, the nurses, and all of us patients were as in that moment with her as we possibly could be. I am grieving for a woman I do not know, but we all went through that experience with her.
A nurse kept coming by and telling FI and I that our room wasn't quite ready yet, and we totally understood, but we didn't know if we should leave or what to do. It felt like a total invasion on this womans privacy to be sitting there. We moved as far from her room as we possibly could.
Her mother walked out of the room and a nurse asked her a question and she answered something about how she was in total shock and couldn't even begin to think of the answer.
FI and I got put in our room and my OB (who I have seen for years) was right there with us. She told us straight up that they don't normally do the heartbeat on a confirmation appt but she NEEDED to do it after this. She apologized profusely for us having to hear what happened, and tried to reassure us that what happened with that lady is not the norm. She also cautioned that even though we are 11 weeks we are right on the edge of hearing the heartbeat and not to freak out if we don't, but I think Bean knew that something big was going on and we all needed a little miracle right then. I wonder if that's why I cried...to go from a total low with this other woman who didn't even know she had a bunch of people supporting her to the most incredible high hearing what I definitely think is the best sound imaginable this far in a pregnancy. I even more believe Bean knew he needed to step up because when she did the U/S she said the way he was positioned should have made it harder to hear him, but the doppler just picked him right up.
I'm rambling and repeating myself, I know. I am a very sensitive person and I am so sad for this stranger. (I'm also pregnant and my hormones are nuts!) And I am so deleriously happy at the same time...I'm trying to process it all. Losing this baby would devastate me. To second-hand witness someone else's loss is terrifying. She sounded exactly what I would imagine a person, madly in love, would sound like if they lost the love of their life. In a way, she did.
Tonight I will say a prayer for this unknown woman, and thank God that my little gift is strong and healthy for now and pray that Bean continues to be the little bit of happiness in everyone's day.
How very sad for that woman..
Glad you have a healthy baby, so very happy for you!
Congrats!!! So happy for you.
My heart is so sad for that lady. Your story just brought back some sad memories...I was her 2 years ago. I will NEVER forget the image of my baby laying still with no heartbeat. She will be in my prayers through this difficult time.
GEAUX TIGERS!!!
1st pregnancy: BFP- 6/28/09 - Found out we lost our little girl on 10/9/09 at 19w 4d - D&E- 10/14/09
June 2010, corrective surgery for Septate Uterus and large fibroids
2nd pregnancy: BFP- 10/18/10 - Slow rising, non-doubling HCGs, no heart beat. Non-viable pregnancy, D&C- 11/12/10
Started Metformin 6/30/11, Started Clomid 7/20/11 - Unsuccessful
HSG and Laparoscopic surgery revealed blocked tubes and lots of scar tissue...IVF here we come!!!
Surprise BFP naturally!!! IT'S A BOY!!!
How wonderful for you guys. Congrats!
I feel so horrible for the other woman though, I cannot imagine her pain.
Exactly this! Wishing you a very healthy pregnancy, congrats!