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Update from this weekend
So once we left for our flight, I found out we were staying in Yonkers, NY friday night then driving up to West Point for the wedding sat. I had been up until 1:30am doing finals for school and had to be up at 5am for work. So by the time we got to our hotel I had been up well over 12 hours. I also hadn't had anything to eat since 11:30 due to lack of time. His friends pushed him to come out so I got dragged out half awake to the bar. I got really pissed because at the wedding the next day I discovered one of the guys wasn't wearing his ring at the bar but was at the wedding.
I tried eating once we got to the hotel but it made me since since I was just way past the point of tired and hungry. The next morning we woke up, had morning sexx but didn't get breakfast until 11:30. We finally reached west point to check in to our hotel and maintence had to let us in because housekeeping locked the door by accident by hanging the do not disturb sign between the handle on the back of the door. So we ended up having to rush to get dressed to be at the church by 2:15. Wedding started at 3 and was over by 4
The cocktail "hour" went from 4 to 7:30pm. We didn't eat dinner until almost 9. I had 2 drinks at the bar right after the wedding waiting on everyone taking pictures. I didn't drink anymore really until the very end of the cocktail hour. His friends found out what I was drinking and didn't realize that I don't drink often so they kept refilling my drinks all night. Eventually I had too much and couldn't have fun. I was tired and my head was killling me. Also as night fell, it was about 20 degrees out. They kept opening the doors so I was freezing the whole night. After the wedding we went back to the hotel and I passed out after taking some tylenol. Even with the tylenol I woke up hung over and with a migraine. Z let me sleep in an extra hour which was sweet.
The whole weekend was rushed, I don't think I really had as much fun as I had anticipated. I also found myself completely unaffectionate and not sure why. I don't really like being touched when I'm tired or sick so that may have had something to do with it. Also one of his really good female friends who just got married earlier this month told me that Z has had girls date him for a few months and then treat him like crap. He is a really sweet guy but gets taken advantage of. Somehow this ended up making me second guess things. I don't know why or it would have been different had she said he's a real ladies man but it just made me feel weird.
I really want things to go back to where they were before we left for this trip. He don't think he really noticed a difference especially since I hadn't been feeling well and was so exhausted but I sure as heck noticed. Someone help me put it in to prospective please.
Re: Update from this weekend
The first time away with someone is really different, let alone going to a wedding. You were tired and cranky and thrust into a situation with friends who you barely knew. Give yourself a break. I'm sure things will be back to "normal" once you resume your day to day relationship.
Furthermore, the girl probably just wanted to talk to you to get to know you and look out for Z. I'm sure she didn't mean anything by it. The fact that she was interested in his wellbeing and getting to know you is a good thing.
In the future, carry snacks with you! You're a mom, you should be used to this anyway
As long as the past wasn't terrible, I'd look past it. He looked past yours when he started dating you...none of us have rosy past relationships so we can't expect it from potential SO's.
True. I guess I felt more pressured not just by her but all of his friends. It was a sense of he's been hurt too many times so don't blow it.
I can understand that, but at the same time you're in a relationship for 2 people, not just for yourself. If things don't work out, you're accountable to your DS before Z and his friends. You should never let others make you feel guilty, especially since things are going well. If things don't work out, he's a big boy, he will be fine. In the meantime, enjoy your time with Z and let things happen as they may.
It's ok to have an "off" weekend, even if it's supposed to be a special weekend for whatever reason. Goodness knows that it has happened to me! It's more worrisome if you never have those "off" days, because that would suggest that you were hiding or suppressing them, since it's pretty much impossible to have good days 100% of the time. So don't be so hard on yourself! I'm sure you'll be back to normal soon, and if not, that's ok, too.
And I agree with MCC that you need to watch out for your interests and your son's interests! Obviously, it doesn't give you free reign to be a b!tch to Z, but you really don't come off as someone who would do that, so don't let his friend get to you!