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Update: My mom might as well have just stuck her fingers in her ears
I told her that because of what happened, it's not the right time for her to come visit. Her reply "I don't know what he heard or he thinks he heard, but it shouldn't affect my ability to come visit my granddaughter."
Ugh.
Re: Update: My mom might as well have just stuck her fingers in her ears
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Is it possible to turn it around into a way she'd understand? Like has she ever asked you to not discuss something with someone and you did it for her? "Remember that time, Mom, when you asked me not to talk about Aunt Betty's divorce and I kept my mouth shut...."
Or, appeal to her as a Mom.....can you get her to see that just like when you were a child - you were your Mom's #1 priority. Well, now YOUR child and YOUR family have to be your priority. It's the way of the world.
Last suggestion....tell her that by denying what she said (and really? who has a reason to lie about it? DH? or your Mom?) is only making matters worse for her. If she were to just admit what she did and apologize it would go a long way.....
Of course, above all reiterate that you love her but that there needs to be boundries and respect - you're a grown woman and a Mom, just like she is.
Oh, one more thought
Since this is what she said
"I don't know what he heard or he thinks he heard, but it shouldn't affect my ability to come visit my granddaughter."
What about reiterating that it's not about HIM at all. YOU are angry at her for going behind your back and saying something to him that you asked her not to. It's not a matter of what he 'heard or thinks he heard', it's not the content of what she said, it's that she said anything at all when you asked her not to. The beef is with you and not DH.
**Even if it really is with DH maybe this is a way to make it better - maybe she'll be more inclined to move past it if she feels the issue is with you and not DH?**
GL - what a sucky situation!
Megan - I wish I could appeal to her with reason, but she's so emotional and irrational about Madeline that I just had to pull the band-aid off and say no and that it's too soon. I told her that she could come out for Thanksgiving so hopefully that'll settle her down since it's only two and a half weeks later.
And by the way, the picture of Jane in her costume is ridiculously cute. Madeline is going to be an angry pumpkin as a follow-up to last year's angry duck.
I can understand - I'm sure she's dying to get her hands on her Grandbaby whenever she can!
You'll have to post angry pumpkin pics
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We were talking by email a little while ago and I decided that I'd just go ahead and tell her she couldn't come. I told her that my first priority is maintaining a stable and happy family life and that I think it's just way too soon since this stuff is still raw on both sides (her and him). She was just here three weeks ago and I said we should focus on Thanksgiving instead. I said that it's not fair to basically disrupt our family life for five days and then to leave me picking up the pieces after she leaves.
She was pissed and hurt but I stood my ground. I think she figured she'd just bully me into saying she could come.