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ugh. bad night. dh getting transferred. (long vent)
So, we both thought that DH was about to get a big promotion at work (basically from asst. branch manager to branch manager at his current location-he's a banker). ALL the signs pointed to it.
He gets called to the regional manager's office for a meeting this evening. Turns out that the bank really wants/needs to move a current manager from her current location to somewhere else. Somehow he ended up in that shift and is being transferred to a different branch over 30 miles away. It is a lateral move, not a promotion. No one, in the transfers,is getting promoted, but apparently they want to get this manager into a bigger branch so that she has fewer responsibilities (weird-it seems like they aren't happy with her so they are moving her instead of getting rid of her?).
Anyway, he assured DH that they love him but that he is just one of the 6-8 people being shifted as a result. His current branch manager/supervisor is furious-their branch loves DH, DH has a lot of responsibility under him and he has awesome customer relationships because he's at the main branch of thebank, which is the town where he grew up.
So, now he gets to add a commute.. so no more coming home at lunch, no more lunch dates, no more errands. And it's going to suck come baby. And it makes him so discouraged because he thought he was getting promoted soon.
Ugh........... we are having a tough enough time with other stuff right now, we did not need this.
Re: ugh. bad night. dh getting transferred. (long vent)
At the end of the day, I know it's fine. I mean, he'll leave a earlier and get home later and we'll have to adjust some things (he does a lot of errands/letting dog out on his lunch break currently)... and spend a bit more on gas...
But we can handle all that. It's just that he is so discouraged. He went in there expecting his promotion and this feels like a demotion, regardless of the fact that he was assured that it wasn't. He currently LOVES his job, his branch, his coworkers, etc. And they love him. I just hate seeing him so beat down.
See, now I know I know nothing of his situation IRL, but it seems to me to be anything BUT a demotion. It sounds like they like and trust him enough to give him this opportunity. If he proves himself there then he'll be even more ready for a promotion.
In business it's often the people who leave what they are doing to move to a new start-up team, or take the job others don't want and do really well at it that excel and get promoted.
Of course, it still means he's leaving his branch and his friends and that sucks, but hopefully he'll do really well and get recognized for it.....eventually.
my thoughts exactly!! It stinks right now - but hopefully it will help him shine. Maybe they want to see him cultivate the same kinds of network/relationships away from the community where he grew up in?? I'm not surprised by the decision to move rather than fire the person they don't like - this seems to happen most often where I work.
It still totally stinks to have to re-think the whole running of the house thing. Especially when you had it down, and were trying to add in new elements (baby) - now everything changes. Ugh.
Thanks girls, I will keep this in mind! We needed a positive perspective!