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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
I've been gone for a while..
My BF and I just moved back home after a year and a half of living in SC. I was home for about 4 weeks, still trying to settle into a routine in between weddings (1 being across the country) and family members having surgeries, when my best friend of 10 years passed away. He was actually more like a brother to me. When we were in high school his dad passed away and he came to live with my family. He was with us until he signed for the marines 4 years ago. I have this sense of emptiness that I've never felt before. Everyone is looking at me like I have 6 heads because I haven't really cried. I don't talk about it too much because I'm not sure what to say. I can't put into words the way that I'm feeling. My best friend took his own life. I don't think my mind can comprehend it. No one saw it coming and it's been really hard accepting the fact that the few answers I have now might be all I'll ever have. I don't know how to move forward.
Re: I've been gone for a while..
I'm sorry for your loss. Unexpected death is always difficult to deal with and there is no "right" way to do it.
Please find a counselor to help you work through this. Look for one that specializes in grief and loss. You can do this.
i'm also one of the 'non-cryers' that always get that look. people grieve in different ways. you dont have to cry to be sad. remember that. it always makes me so angry that people ask why i'm not crying. like they assume you need to be wailing and blubbering and carrying on to be sad. not so. and of course you don't know what to say-what CAN you say? dont worry about those things! it's just making you feel worse in a time that you feel bad enough already.
i'm so very sorry for him. what an awful time. you will never get the answers you're looking for. focus on your good times with him. you'll move forward because you HAVE to-one day at a time. be sure you give yourself time to grieve.
Ditto to the above. Everyone deals with emotions differently. It may hit you later, or you may never cry. Don't feel guilty about not doing so. I would definitely suggest talking to someone also just to sort out your emotions and feelings and help YOU feel better.