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his new girlfriend is moving in
I feel like I should be way beyond this. After all, sh!t hit the fan in May and I decided to ask for a divorce at the end of June.
That's (count on fingers) 4 months.
Should this bug me? Shouldnt it? Ugh.
i think a lot of you might know my story from prev posts ~ he was abusive, I was in love, but I couldnt take it. They worked together and she started texting him this spring, I told them separately that it bothered me and they both told me to get over it, basically. Now they've been together since I told him I wanted a divorce, and she tells people I broke my own nose so I could get a divorce.
How on earth do I get this to stop bothering me!
thanks
Re: his new girlfriend is moving in
That's not long ago at all.
It sucks that they're both being jerks, but the good news is, you only need to worry about YOU now. Not him, not her, not them.
Not sure how you found out this information, but I'd try to distance yourself from him if I were you. What you don't know can't hurt you. You're moving on, and he's not going to be a part of your life anymore.
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That's basically the same time-frame as my stbx and I. I can assure you that I'd flip shiit if I knew he was dating a chick he had a 'friendship' with at the end of our marriage - let alone if that biitch moved in. Cut yourself some slack. Dude is an assshole and so is she if she thinks it's ok to be doing this, and to talk shiit on you.
I'd say let yourself feel the anger and sadness to get it all out now and start the healing process.
Yep. I confirmed that my XH had been cheating on me after roughly the same amount of time and it hit me HARD. A year later when I found out he had married her, I felt nothing. Total non-reaction.
Counseling =
Well, 4 months since you asked for a divorce. Not necessarily 4 months since they started their relationship!
In a few months, you will thank your lucky stars that you are no longer with him, and wonder why the abuse did not bother you as much as (possible....yeah, right) infidelity.
Eventually her bliss is going to change. I dont' blame you for being angry, but I'd try to turn it into pity. And happiness for yourself- that it will no longer be you!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Agreed