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Your SOs "number"

HeyNeyHeyNey
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Haines' post below got me thinking...[Poll]
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Re: Your SOs "number"

  • HeyNeyHeyNey
    Meaning: the number of partners your SO has had sex with Devil
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  • MintChocoChipMintChocoChip

    imageHeyNey:
    Meaning: the number of partners your SO has had sex with Devil

    Yeah, I hope if I were sleeping with someone I'd have their celly digits ;)

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  • bluebirdphotobluebirdphoto
    I know it, but it doesn't really matter to me and the same for him...
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  • River PestieRiver Pestie

    I voted that it doesn't matter.  What really matters to me is that he is STD-free (which he is) and that he was safe (which he was). 

     For me, it isn't a competition (in either direction). 

     

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  • Chasing EmmiiChasing Emmii
    We know each others' numbers, and I'm twice what he is. But he was with his ex-wife for about 7 years total, and he's only 29, so he hasn't had nearly as much time to "experience" things as I have. I'm fine with what his number is, obviously.
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  • Pugs Not DrugsPugs Not Drugs
    Number of partners isn't as important as number of STDs.
    It's just me and my Marlon now... and I LOVE it that way!
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  • OnlyaFoolOnlyaFool

    imagePugs Not Drugs:
    Number of partners isn't as important as number of STDs.

    LOL

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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
    Eighth Anniversary 10000 Comments 100 Love Its Name Dropper
    Eh.  I think that sexual decisions are like any other decisions, in that they reflect who the person making them is.  The sort of person who'd have a high number of partners would be incompatible with me, just as the sort of person who would have waited for marriage would be incompatible with me. 
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  • HeavenlyExcitedBrideHeavenlyExcitedBride

    It helps for me to know!  Doesn't have to be exact but an idea of his past.  This is probably because I had a past relationship with a guy who was over the tops with his numbers, I thought it would not bother me but it did.  He was just way too experienced in some department that I couldn't keep up for the life of me.  It was important to him and he had no patience with me.  He was a big douche but at the same time, I would like to know early on what I am getting into before I get too deep beyond the surface before starting a relationship.  I don't have all the time in the world to learn the in and out of each person I date.  I also think having way too many relationships brings much higher expectations as well because there was so many past loves to "compare" with. But that is just me!

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  • achase123achase123
    Not necessary.
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  • BowiesInSpaceBowiesInSpace
    imageRiver Pestie:

    I voted that it doesn't matter.  What really matters to me is that he is STD-free (which he is) and that he was safe (which he was). 

     For me, it isn't a competition (in either direction). 

    This.

    We have an idea of each other's numbers, just from talking about where we've been in life.  I think ours are the same, or at least thereabouts.  I haven't really felt the need to ask for a definitive number, nor has he. 

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  • UDscoobychickUDscoobychick member
    Fifth Anniversary
    I'd be lying if I said it completely didn't matter to me...it doesn't have to be an exact number, but a general ballpark.  If BF's "number" were unreasonably high or unreasonably low (i.e. 0), it would bother me.
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  • hainesherwayhainesherway

    imageUDscoobychick:
    I'd be lying if I said it completely didn't matter to me...it doesn't have to be an exact number, but a general ballpark.  If BF's "number" were unreasonably high or unreasonably low (i.e. 0), it would bother me.

    That's how I feel too.  Although I know I'm an idiot for spilling my exact number Tongue Tied

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  • OnlyaFoolOnlyaFool

    This is close race. It's only 50 votes, but still. Interesting.

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  • kjewellkjewell member
    When I first met H I was a virgin.  He was not, for some reason I felt it was important I knew how many came before me.  It bothered me for a long time and I regreted asking.  Now, I could care less.  As long as he only has one CURRENT partner why does it matter how many previous partners he had.
    "You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness."
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