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Could use my mom now (vent/whine)
My baby furniture was supposed to be delivered today, although somehow the company thought it was delivering it on Oct. 20th when I was away so that didn't work out. Now it's not going to be delivered until Nov 14 when I'm 35.5 weeks pregnant. Leaving me little time to get everything set up.
We just got back from a trip to the states and my flat is a mess, there is baby stuff everywhere, and I feel like all I am doing is sitting here being upset by it all. I can't get myself to do anything. I'm upset that our flat still doesn't feel like a home. I have no idea how everything for the baby is really going to fit in here and how we can organize everything to make it flow, be usable, organized, and look nice.
We bought back the rest of the stuff from my baby shower in the states on this trip and I just got upset/angry at even having to pack it up, unwrap everything from it's packaging to make it fit, leave a few things behind, and not just being able to throw it in our car and drive to our place. I like living here, but I hate being so far away from my family and friends and never pictured having a baby so far away.
Now I'm just wishing my mom or my sister was here because they would help me clean and get everything sorted and feel more prepared. Obviously I know the baby won't know if everything is a mess and not ready, but I need it all to be. Although I love my husband dearly he just doesn't get it the same way they do. Some things you just need your mom for.
Re: Could use my mom now (vent/whine)
That does suck hon. You are right smack dab in the middle of nesting mode and feeling overwhelmed...all completely normal and magnified by being so far from home.
Make a list and break everything doewn to projects so it doesn't seem like one big mess. Take it one day/one project at a time and before you know it, it'll all come together.
Also, YH really needs to help you out. MH isn't in nesting mode like I am either and I am having a hard time getting him motivated. Maybe making projects for specifically for him...MH is better putting together the stroller, furniture, hanging pictures, etc than cleaning, planning and organizing. If he feel overwhelmed, giving him specific projects makes him more motivated and focused.
Good luck and if you need to vent you know where to come!
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My DH's job wanted us to move while I was preggers and I was like NO WAY..I want my mommy. I was a spoiled new mom for the first year because my mom and aunts were always there to help.
I will say,now that we are here with little help, we are a much stronger family unit. So there's something
Chin it, if I were by you to help I sure would!
First off big hugs to you! I definitely agree there are times you just want your mom around. Sorry you're so frustrated right now.
I agree with Shekels too. YH needs to help out even if he's not in nesting mode the way you are. I felt like such a nag, but I was constantly having to bug MH to hang things or go shopping for things for the baby, but now that everything is all finished up I'm glad I did it. Now we're both happy. DH isn't being nagged and I'm happy to have things done. Yay!
Is your mom going to visit you when the baby is born? If not I'd start looking for mom's groups in your area and other support groups (lalecheleague if you're planning on breastfeeding for example) just so you have some groups to fall back on when baby arrives.
My mom has been here 3 weeks and will be here about 5 more weeks (well, staying with us only 3 more of those weeks) and it's been great but I am worried about getting too used to having the help...and I've set out finding support groups for when it's all on me so I don't get too overwhelmed.
All that said I wish I was there to help you out! I'm going crazy just waiting for baby to arrive now that I've got everything ready for her arrival!
Do not underestimate the effect a dirty house can have on your sanity! Throw things into boxes, stuff it into drawers, or just put it into somewhat organized heaps. Then you can slowly go through it all bit by bit when you're ready.
I just had the same experience last night. DH is away, I'm in the middle of my finals, and we're moving on Saturday. I'm a mess and I don't even have pregnancy hormones to blame! Rather than do my paper last night, I just moved things around slightly (nothing at all productive) and feel much better today.
Though I agree with you, times like these mom is always best.
Thanks for listening/reading my complaints. DH is saying he will help me with everything this weekend, so I think you are right that I need to give him specific things. I think I will make a list of the things I can think of and give that to him. He likes to be able to cross things off so that would help.
Hopefully by the end of the weekend I'm feeling a bit better. Then it's 4.5 weeks left of work and then my maternity leave starts. My parents and brother are coming xmas eve-Jan 2nd and then we have a bunch of people booking trips after that. I'm looking forward to the help then and seeing everyone, but I'm also a little nervous about how many people are coming so close together. Too early to worry about that though.
I completely understand that feeling. It's really tough when you're in nesting mode and you feel like you aren't able to do it.
Hugs to you.
I can imagine how overwhelming that must be! Definitely make the lists and do some little things you feel like you can handle. I find that when I am feeling completely under water, I find something small to start with so I feel like I'm accomplishing something, but not a project that is so big I can't bring myself to get started. I'm sure with your husband helping this weekend, it will all seem a lot more manageable.
And think of all the great stuff you have for the LO, even if it is a little all over the place right now
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