Starting Over
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Finally introducing myself

Hi ladies,

I am usually on the NJ board, but I have been lurking here for a few months and I just have to say that I have think that all of you ladies here are great.

Little back story on me: With my STBX for 10 years, married for 6 with no children.  August 2010 he decided that he no longer wanted to be married to me & have kids.   We had started to drift apart about 3 months earlier - my dad passed away and he started a fight with me & my siblings on the cost of his funeral and he didn't want to pay, and this happened the day he died. That didn't go over to well. 

 I was sad the first month, then got angry and decided to move on with my life.  We own a condo and I tried and tried to make decisions with him since we were still on good terms after the initial shock.

Since neither of us could afford to move out, he moved into the 2nd bedroom and we began to live separate lives.  He has procrastinated with every decision.  Around December 2010, a relationship that I wasn't even looking for fell into my lap.  We were acquaintences and we bonded since he was going through a divorce as well and we were helping each other through the ups and downs.  One thing led to another and we have ended up together.  And everyday I thank the heavens for this man.  He is a total gem, treats me like gold and is a great father.  He fought for and won full physical custody of his 10 year old son.  His divorce became final on 8/22 of this year, which was also my wedding anniversary.  Is that a sign or what?

I moved out of the condo I shared with STBX last month and took our (now MY) dog. While I am still getting pushback from him on the selling of the house and moving the divorce proceedings along, my life is great.  I am not 100% happy yet but that is only because this one issue is still active. But I am hopeful that by the end of the year I can finally say I'm FREE.

Sorry this is so long.  But HI to everyone on Starting Over.

Allison

 

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