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Big Decision - need help
I currently work 3 days a week at a higher than average salary for a part time position. I have my own office and I get benefits including vacation and sick time and a matching retirement plan. My office is 10 minutes from my front door and Grandma's house is on the way which is where my 2 little ones go (22 months old and 6 months old). I get to go see them over my one hour lunch break. However, with all of this being said, I only work with 2 other women (in their 60's) so I don't feel like I fit in with them very well and my job is EXTREMELY boring. A lot of times I don't have enough to fill my days but since my boss is older, she doesn't approve of the internet so I have nothing to fill my time. Today I had a job opportunity fall into my lap. It would triple my salary but is an hour away and will be very stressful and busy. I'm not willing to move. The CEO said the first 6months - 1 year, he would expect me in the office at least 4 days a week. After that first year, we could work out a deal of me working from home probably 3 days a week but that's not promised. My husband and I are in a lot of school loan debt and are outgrowing our house FAST. We are currently living securely but close to paycheck to paycheck. Do I give up my easy life right now that lets me be the mommy I want to be and see my kids a lot? Or do I take this position, miss out on my kids for awhile, and know that this will get us where we need to be as a family (bigger house, out of debt) in about 3 years where I can then look at going back to something a little easier (knowing that my kids will be in school). Help!
Re: Big Decision - need help
We can't answer this for you. You need to decide on your priorities.
If it's really important for you to pay down debt and get into a bigger house (and one potentially closer to your new job), and you're willing to give up a year or so of more time with your children, then this job sounds great.
If you can't imagine not seeing your kids much during the week, and that the stress and busy-ness will get old quickly, then maybe this isn't for you.
Can you compromise and look for other jobs that aren't as far away or aren't as stressful, but can still get you out of your current situation? Just because this job fell into your lap doesn't mean there aren't others out there.
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Yes I know you are right. I need to make this decision for myself........ I would not be able to find a job with this good of pay. The CEO offering it to me is someone I have worked for in the past and wants me to join his team again and is offering a higher than typical salary for this position because he knows it would be difficult for me so wants to make sure I'm reimbursed accordingly. I am having such a difficult time because I do NOT want to miss out on this valuable time with my kids but if I do take this job, it could drastically change our lives over the next 2 years and I feel like I could provide my kids with things that I am not able to now. And not just materialistic things - one example is that I grew up on a few acres and every year as a family we would go out and pick all of the fruit off of our fruit trees and go inside and help my mom can and bake and cook. It was a summer time tradition and I LOVED it. Those things are so important to me and I want to do the same with my kids. Right now I feel like we are crammed up into a small cluttered house with no room to enjoy anything inside or outside. AHHHHHHHHH this decision is going to drive me crazy and will probably haunt me forever with the what if no matter what I decide.
Good luck, either way you have to do what is best for you and your family whichever it is!
I would take it- if you don't like it, your could always leave for something else. Plus, with (what I assume is) more responsibility and higher pay, your future job prospects are a lot better.
The detail that shocked me was that you currently have no internet! That's brutal.
This! I know so many people(well women specifically) that have found themselves in tough positions after these situations. An hour commute is tough but you can listen to books, maybe talk to friends/family during that time and it also might be a good time for you to unwind before you get home. It's not like you can't change jobs after a year or two if it's not working out then you can make changes as needed.