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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
S/O Online Dating - Creeps etc
I joined Match a little bit ago, and after 3 weeks on, inactivated my profile because I was getting bombarded with emails from guys who are either creepy (like 15+ years older and saying things like "I love to please a woman" or "I'll take care of you") or not my type (mid 20's, highschool degree, horrible grammar). I also had one stalker (claimed he saw me at places I had been. Sent the "I'm not interested" kept emailing, finally blocked him). Are most online dating sites like this? You have to filter through many creeps to get to someone actually datable? If so, I don't think I'm up for it. I'm pretty social, have a ton of girlfriends, it's just most are married so I'm not exposed to a lot of single guys in my social circle.
Re: S/O Online Dating - Creeps etc
The first time I did Match.com (5 years ago) I had a guy call my workplace! I had said I worked at a hospital in my profile (the actual name was not mentioned and there are 6 hospitals in my city) and the man called around and found me! This is after I had already blocked him continuing to email me after telling him I am not interested. the call went to voicemail. I had a friend call and tell him I was no longer working there...
I reported him to Match and his membership was revoked.
The second time around I was more careful with what was in my profile.
I guess I don't get why everyone gets so bothered by "creeps" on dating sites, etc. Unless they're stalking you (and I agree with beccaga -- keep personal info off your profile), just ignore them or block them and move on.
Getting upset about it is like getting upset about homeless people on the street asking you for change. Yeah, maybe it gets annoying after a while, but you can just ignore them or walk away. You can't stop them from being there, you know? It comes with the territory.
And if it really bothers you (for whatever reason), online dating just might not be the thing for you. Eh.
Be very percise in your profile, I was on Match and had very little porblems. I was blunt in my profile as to what I was/wasnt looking for age wise and relationship wise. If someone didnt take the time to read it and message me I just blocked them right off the bat. Put right in your profile, what not to message you lol
I met 4 guys in person on Match.com, 1 was obviously married and I never saw him again or talked to him. 2 of them were awesome but we werent going to work out relationship wise but I became friends with and 1 Im engaged to. The one Im engaged to actually messaged me and we went back and forth about 4 emails and I just stopped cause he bored me lol a few months later my friend and I were looking profiles over and she told me to message him and I told her about him and she said, give it a better chance and viola, Im so glad I did. He is awesome but SUCKS at written communication lol, so keep that in mind
There are going to be creeps anywhere, but a paid site limits it a bit, also cuts down on the married ones
Yeah, you have to filter through the creeps, but that's true of the world at large. I found myself demoralized at times too. Once I stopped taking it so seriously and garnered some online dating experience, I was able to identify the decent ones pretty quickly. Believe me, they're looking for non-creeper women too. It can take some time to "find" each other though.
There are creeps everywhere. I am not on any dating site but the other day I was surprise to get a message in my inbox on Facebook because of my Facebook photo. Some random guy says he wants to make sure I always have that smile on my face and he is the man for me to keep that smile going for years.
Bleh...