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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
I crashed and burned...
so yesterday I posted that it had been my first good day since the separation. But last night I crashed and burned having a horrible nightmare that was so real and freaky it woke me up!
In the dream I was arguing with StbX about his cheating, he denied it (which paralleled our IRL conversations) but then in my dream he accidentally calls me Rebecca - which is not my name but his gf. I was so angry I threw a plastic bowl at him cutting his forehead so I had to spend the rest of my dream apologizing and freaking out that I would now lose custody of my kids because I attacked him!
No fun. Please tell me dreaming about separation is really a sign of heeling....
one day at a time
Re: I crashed and burned...
When the X and I first separated, I had many many nights of nightmares... As time went on, they became less frequent. I have been divorced for 4 years now, so I don't have them anymore, but they really suck. I am sorry that you're having them.
And yes, it really does take one day at a time. For me, sometimes, I had to take it second by second and minutes by minute.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I've had a few dreams already, same thing, very real and disturbing. It's gotten better and it's only been a few months.
I agree with PP, some days I literally had to hit the Pause button for a minute because I couldn't get my head on straight for even just that minute.
I am sorry.
I had nightmares for a long time. Most were of me beggin, pleading and screaming at him to tell me why this happened. It is really hard when you have a good day and then face a bad night, but it will get better. Chin up!
I agree here. It's a tought process. I know it doesn't seem like it sometimes, but it really will get easier with time. And while you're waiting for that, we're here for you!
I have these as well. Many times they revolve around him cheating on me or his addictions. I had one last night where XH ended up back in jail and for some reason, I was the person picking up the pieces of his trail of destruction, just like every time before IRL.
I'm actually glad to hear that others deal with this phenomenon too!