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I am incredibly annoyed by that delete

That was the most interesting situation this board has seen in a long time.

 

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  • I was *just* trying to open it.
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    I'm glad I was able to read the first page before the DD.  there are few things more amusing than an 18 year old proclaiming, "I'm not a child bride."  Anything good I missed on page 2?
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    I was *just* trying to open it.

    Me too.  I always miss the good stuff 

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  • I knew that was going to happen. 1) 18 year olds tend not to like it when people are brutally honest. 2) She is pretty new to the board. That combination usually means a DD is in the future. I really did not have the energy to even respond to her post just reading it gave me a headache.
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  • I still have page 2 open. I summarized it for Maryboo. Sibil posted a picture of what grandma probably looks like. And it got deleted after Ojo told her about being a child bride:

     The irony is that you're still to young to acknowledge it. When you post your business on the Internet, you don't get to dictate how we opine.

    And really, the most interesting part, to me, wasn't even her. It was the rest of her family! 

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    I still have page 2 open. I summarized it for Maryboo. Sibil posted a picture of what grandma probably looks like. And it got deleted after Ojo told her about being a child bride:

     The irony is that you're still to young to acknowledge it. When you post your business on the Internet, you don't get to dictate how we opine.

    And really, the most interesting part, to me, wasn't even her. It was the rest of her family! 

    I still have page 1 open. I missed the pic though, darn I bet that was funny. 

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  • I just said that this must be her grandmother, and she's probably not over 50

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    I'm totally innocent

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  • lol, Sibil! And I think I was actually quite kind in telling her that she wasn't anywhere near the train wreck that her brother and SIL are. 
  • Good thing the nest never forgets. Also, Google chache is always an option, so unless you delete the content of the post box, its out there forever. We can all go search it forever...
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  • I totally saw it coming before I even opened the post.

    Her SN screamed "I'm an 18 year old beeeebeeeee"

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    I just said that this must be her grandmother, and she's probably not over 50

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    I'm totally innocent

    Totally missed all this, but I'm loving the White's interjection here!  Kirk (this chick) literally is like 30.  

     

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  • Sibil, that pic cracks me up!! And made me think, damn, I could be close to her grandma's age! Ouch!!

    I did not respond to the thread, but I agree that it's not a surprise that she DD'd. I mean, come on, that's how 18 year olds react. I'm not knocking 18 year olds, I was one once. . . 22 years ago. But, as previously mentioned, the OP of the DD'd thread is already miles ahead of her brother, who is an unemployed, two-time father who mooches off of others and either doesn't trust his wife or was jealous of her fabulous trip to visit his sister's fianc?, now husband. (And, I wonder how that came about. . . )

    OP of the DD'd thread, stick around, lurk and read. There are ladies here with varied backgrounds, lots of experience and, some, even, were relatively young brides (though, I am not one of them). From the few times you've posted, I can see that you are able to write well so that leads me to believe that you are intelligent. (And, you get points in my book, in case you care, because you did not use text-speak!). We all were 18 years old at one point. Some of us made choices when we were younger that made life more difficult. None of us are perfect, but we've learned and grown. So, when people share their advice and experiences, it is to help you, and others. We don't know you, it's not personal. And, we do see a number of very young brides come through here. Some think they know it all and that the ladies here are dumb. Others see that they can learn from the experience of others.

    My one bit of advice to you is to get enrolled in classes at the local community college--and get your DH to do so, too. For him, it will help with promotions and the military will pay for a certain number of credits a year. For you, as a military spouse, getting an education will help you be develop yourself as a person outside of being a military wife. I speak from experience--it can be a challenge to feel independent when you are entirely dependent upon your spouse for financial support, especially as you move from base to base. Taking classes is also an opportunity to meet people and to make friends, which gets more difficult the older you are and is, IMO, a critical part of being happy wherever you live.

    Sorry this got so long. Good luck!
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  • I dont know why I am feeding this stupid thing. If any of you can use your brain for alittle while. A child bride is when they are under age. I am clearly not. I would love to know how my family is so d@mn funny. Please can you tell me? Yes my family has issues. So does everyones. Are all of your lives so pathetic you have to bash me? I am young that gives me the right to make mistakes. On that same note it doesnt give any of you the right to basicly call me stupid. Thank you ladies I hope you all have the best day.
  • Clearly your family has issues. That's why it's so important to stop being codependent and the best way to do that is to find a counselor. I'm also inclined to believe your husband's family has issues, otherwise I don't think he would have gone for having your family living under his roof. While yes, every family has their own issues, not all of them involve supporting deadbeats and having their teenagers running off to get married. If you want a better life for your own kids, you need to get counseling and learn how to break those cycles.
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  • Hey, people were more bashing your brother mostly. Which seems reasonable considering the situation, don't you think? I think considering his and his wife's actions, the criticisms are well deserved.

    People pointed out your youngness, myself included. But you are an adolescent, regardless if you care to admit it or not. It's not innately a bad thing. Considering that developmentalists put adolescence ending at 21 or so, you're hardly the only one around her with that label. And generally, its not that big of a deal most the time with most of the posters in that group.

    ilovemyairman (i think that's right) you did get good advice. You also got very defensive and pretty beebee about it. Lurk around and you'll realize no one was really that mean to you. We're one of the puffiest, puppy and rainbow, easy going boards on the nest, so really nothing anyone said to you was nearly as bad as it could have been. Also, advice for the future- the more defensive and angry you get, the more people feed into it. It turns into like a shark feeding frenzy. Stay calm and reasonable, things will work out better.
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    Hey, people were more bashing your brother mostly. Which seems reasonable considering the situation, don't you think? I think considering his and his wife's actions, the criticisms are well deserved.

    People pointed out your youngness, myself included. But you are an adolescent, regardless if you care to admit it or not. It's not innately a bad thing. Considering that developmentalists put adolescence ending at 21 or so, you're hardly the only one around her with that label. And generally, its not that big of a deal most the time with most of the posters in that group.

    ilovemyairman (i think that's right) you did get good advice. You also got very defensive and pretty beebee about it. Lurk around and you'll realize no one was really that mean to you. We're one of the puffiest, puppy and rainbow, easy going boards on the nest, so really nothing anyone said to you was nearly as bad as it could have been. Also, advice for the future- the more defensive and angry you get, the more people feed into it. It turns into like a shark feeding frenzy. Stay calm and reasonable, things will work out better.

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  • I am very sorry for the way I reacted. I will admit I was wrong for the way I freaked out. Also please understand I never thought once about running off to get married. It was a vacation. Nothing more or less. Also he did not want them moving in with us I begged him. He caved. Now it is kinda like a big "I told you so" slap in the face. Yes I will admit it was a mistake. I have been reading alot on this board way before I posted. Thats why I even asked. I thought maybe I could ask without the judgement. As you all see I am young. I guess I signed up for the judgement. Anyway. I am terribly sorry for my childish actions. I hope you ladies have a wonderful night. :)
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