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A DH Vent
We had a VVIP visit at work (I have no idea what the extra "V" stands for) and we've both been working long hours. We thought we would both have to work late last night so I called our nanny and asked her to spend the night and stay until 2pm today so that we could sleep. DH ended up getting out of work at 9pm and decided to call the nanny and tell her not to come.
I, on the other hand, had to work from 1am to 8am. When I got home the kids were already up and playing on the iPad in bed while DH slept. Instead of taking them downstairs so that I could go to bed, he lounged around for another hour in bed. Finally at 9am I got to go to sleep while he took the kids downstairs to get them breakfast. He came back up at 1pm and told me he was "trading places" with me and it was my turn with the kids.
I'll give him credit that he is starting to come down with a cold, but he knew this last night when he unilaterally decided to send the nanny home. Now I'm kind of pissed because he's been in bed for almost three hours taking a nap after being home all night while I was working. I only got four hours of sleep and they weren't very good because, while he was supposed to be watching the kids, he was laying on the couch the whole time and DS was throwing constant temper tantrums between trying to get him to play with him and trying to tell him that the bowl of cereal he fixed him wasn't cutting it after four hours.
I swear I really do love my husband, but he's being a bit of a selfish bastard today- even if he is sick.
Re: A DH Vent
I'd be really grumpy too.
I hope you're able to get some much needed sleep tonight!
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Thanks. I know it's bad, but I'm a little gleeful about telling him when he gets up that he gets to take both of the kids grocery shopping on his own while I go take a nap.
How are you feeling these days? When's your next doctor's appointment? I am so happy for you and hope that you have a smooth and easy pregnancy!
Ack, there is nothing worse than lack of sleep. And then to have a H who is being selfish is just icing on the cake!!
My H and I have arguments like this from time to time. Because I am a SAHM my H thinks that I am 100% responsible for Macy 100% of the time. Even on the weekends. Lately we have had some "discussions" because he has been spending too much of his off time either hunting or fishing. While I will give him credit that he does work hard and deserves some time to unwind, WTF about me? I don't even want to do anything special. If I could just sit in our bedroom and stare at the wall for a half hour WITHOUT the baby I would be happy.
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Ha- I feel the same way sometimes! The thing is, if I'm not actually leaving the house to go do something, DH doesn't think it's as worthy a cause as when he goes to a friend's house or goes and plays softball. Sometimes all I want to do with my free time is sleep or sit my azz on the internet. What's wrong with that?
I could have written that!! It makes me insane! He thinks if I don't plan something outside of the house, then it is not as worthy as his golf, man time, etc. WTF
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Thanks for letting me vent. ;-) I didn't make him go shopping after all. I just told him he was being a jerk and he agreed said he was sorry. He was sufficiently contrite and I'm too tired to stay mad so I forgave him. I am such a softy.
Usually on the weekends we have a pretty good policy where he gets to sleep in one day I get to sleep in the other. This was just an off weekend because neither of us was able to sleep in.
This is me and my H, most of the time. I'm with Nicole, though. With the lack of sleep you had I probably would have not hesitated to promptly tell him to go f-ck himself and pass the eff out for a few hours.
Ditto that. My DH always says, "but she just wants to be with you". I realize that, but Mommy needs a break sometimes too!
Sorry your dh is being selfish today. I think it's pre-wired into their brains. I hope you caught up on sleep!