August 2009 Weddings
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Boo...Selfishly sad.

My BIL and his girlfriend broke up.  I mean, it has been a long time coming, so I am not shocked, but I am sad.  They have been together 8 years (longer than DH and I) and have been long distance for much of that time through college and such.  Now they are in the same city (he is working and she is in grad school) but they were living separately and not seeing each other that much.  They have been on different pages for awhile now--she is ready for more commitment/marriage/etc...he is marriage-phobic.  She was starting not to trust him (thinking he had maybe cheated or at least was having inappropriate conversations with another girl--which is most likely true.)

Honestly, it will be a good thing for both of them...but I am sad about it.  She doesn't have family of her own, so she has always spent holidays with us...and honestly, she is my favorite of DH's family.  But DH said that I can't invite her to Thanksgiving and Christmas instead of my BIL (boo...).  Plus, I love my BIL, but he is a dumb ass and will never, ever find anyone a good as her.  The next girlfriend will probably be a bimbo and make my holidays with the ILs even more annoying.  Ugh.

Ah well, so it goes.

Oh, and the tacky part--my BIL asked for the jewelry he had given her (a "promise" ring and something else) back.  My MIL reamed him out for that.  See...he's a dumb ass.

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Re: Boo...Selfishly sad.

  • That's how I felt when my brother broke up with his now wife when they had been dating for 2yrs I was really sad. Too bad BIL is an idiot!
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  • imagefuturemrsofficer:
    That's how I felt when my brother broke up with his now wife when they had been dating for 2yrs I was really sad. Too bad BIL is an idiot!

    Yeah, honestly, I feel worse for me and for him than for her.  She is going to find an amazing guy who actually deserves her, so while I am sure she is sad now, I think she is the one who is going to make out in this situation...

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  • That's sad.  Too bad you can't invite her instead of him.  I agree that she's going to find someone who appreciates her, and he's going to regret letting her go.  Dumbass, indeed.
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  • Personally, I think you can still be friends with her, if you want. I'm still friends with my ex's whole family (his cousins were super tight), and I'm SO thankful for that because I really loved them all as people. I get the no holidays stuff, but you can still totally have her around when he's not!
  • imagekaesha:
    Personally, I think you can still be friends with her, if you want. I'm still friends with my ex's whole family (his cousins were super tight), and I'm SO thankful for that because I really loved them all as people. I get the no holidays stuff, but you can still totally have her around when he's not!

    Yeah, I plan to.  I sent her a message today (she lives in another state).  I think MIL is planning on keeping in touch with her too.  This is partly why it took them so long to break up when really it has been over between them for awhile...BIL felt bad about breaking up because he knew that his mother and I would be upset Stick out tongue

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  • Aww that is sad for you. She sounds like a cool person. I would keep in touch with her.
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