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Honestly how would you take this??
My sister and I are 5 yrs apart but we look so much alike and are so close with each other that ppl think we're twins. I've used her ID before and she's used mine. So her birthday was on a wednesday and we were all going out for her birthday on the saturday after. The night before we were all suppose to go out, we had a birthday dinner at our mom's. My sister and I kind of got into a little spat because she was yelling at my dad that he was being too rough with my son. I told her to leave our dad alone because my son was fine. I know how rough he can play, and him and his tata were just fine. She wasn't happy with me saying something to her.
Saturday morning she calls me and asks if I was going out with them that night (I had a baby 4 months ago so I think she thought I might not go). I asked why. She tells me she lost her ID and needed to use mine. I told her I had planned on going. She said "oh. We'll I guess we'll just go to Jack's ( a common bar) because that's the only place that will let me in with out carding me. I didn't really want to go to Jack's but if you're going that's where we'll be." I told her to look for her ID and I'd let her know if I was going or not. I felt like she was uninviting me, I thought maybe I was overreacting. I talked with my hubby and had decided that we would go for an hour or so and then leave her my ID to go out after. I called her to find out what time we were meeting up. She then tells me everyone is meeting at a different place. She had found her ID and didn't bother to let me know.
Now I know my hormones may still be out of whack, which is why I wasn't trying to take it personal. But after she didn't call me to tell me she found her ID, I had it. I didn't go out with them. I didn't want any attitude from my sister. She's now mad at me that I didn't go. When I told her I felt like she didn't want me there, she told me I was being stupid. At this point we haven't talked in a week since she's mad at me. I called our mom's yesterday. All she said when she answered was "mom's not here" I said "ok..." She cut me off and said "bye"
So was I wrong for feeling like that?? Or am I justified?? If I was being hormonal, I'll apologize to her. I'm not looking for an apology from her. I just want to know if I'm in the wrong.
Re: Honestly how would you take this??
Lending your ID to anyone is a really bad idea.
That being said, it sounds like your sister did want you to come but not more than she wanted to go to a particular bar. Give it a little time then explain to her why your feelings were hurt.
So you told her you'd let her know if you were going. She didn't call you because you said you'd call her. She answered her phone and told you where she was going. She didn't snub you, you overreacted.
And WTF is with the ID swapping. I have an identical twin and we've never had the need to swap IDs. I can't figure out why this is a repeated occurrence between the two of you.
I think you are both being passive-aggressive.
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I told her to look for her ID and I'd let her know if I was going or not.
So, you told her you'd call her BUT are mad at her for not calling you? You also told her you didn't even know if you were going to go.
Then you stomped your feet and threw a tantrum and didn't go? wow
You sound like you are 2 years old.
Let it go. Sounds to me like you're the one who said you would call, so you can't get upset that she didn't get in touch with you. If my sister had said to me what you said to yours, I'd be waiting to hear from her.
As for the ID thing? Sorry, but IMO the whole premise behind this misunderstanding is incredibly stupid. Loaning out your ID to anyone, even your "looks a lot like you sister" is just dumb.
your son calls his grandpa "tata"?
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Gretchen Evie, born 7/8/2012 at 35w5d
Here is what your sister's post would sound like...
"My sister told me that she would call to let me know if she was coming out with us. When she called, I told her that our meeting place had changed. Then, she got upset and said she wasn't going to come. I feel like she didn't want to spend time with me on my birthday."
This is what everyone is talking about. It's time you take responsibility for your own actions (or lack of action). Yes, your sister could have called you, but there was no reason to.
And, really, there is no smart reason to give your ID to someone. Bad idea. Bad.
30 seconds on Google will make you sound less dim.
I guess the question is, and hard to answer, if you hadn't called her, would she have called you. I guess give her the benefit of the doubt and say you jumped to a conclusion that you shouldn't have, aplogize, and move on.
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It's Spanish for grandpa.
"your son calls his grandpa "tata"?
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WTF?? Condescend much?