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Yes deployments suck, but ....
... please dont post your rants about how your deployment is sooooo terrible and then post pics of you in a bikini on a beach somewhere.
Oh and all the pics you have of you at the club with a drink in hand just makes me think "I should have joined the Air Force instead so I wouldnt be stuck here in Iraq" instead of making me feel sorry for you on your "deployment."
Of course this rant isnt directed at any of you ladies and I know its not for every AF deployment, but it does apply to a girl I went to high school with ... rant over ...
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013
Re: Yes deployments suck, but ....
I'll be sure to congratulate our many friends risking their lives currently in Afghanistan (and as my H faces his next tour there) on their ever-wise choice to go AF.
Look, I've got a cousin in the Navy who got to see some pretty awesome sites while deployed. Should he feel bad? No. He still was separated from his family over the holidays and dealt with the same hardships, he just had a different deployment experience than my H ever will. Nothing "right" or "wrong" about that.
Also, according to your location you're stationed in Hawaii. Gorgeous, sunny, what's not to love, right? Wrong! I'm sure there are plenty of things not to like. (Presumably) far from family, high cost of living; etc.
My point is the grass is always going to be greener on somebody else's side. I could just as easily say, using your logic, that it's unfair for our friends and my H to serve an entire tour in A-stan while the news is reporting troops coming home early from Iraq and since you're in Iraq that MUST mea you have it easier.
Kind of insulting, isn't it?
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013
I give the "side eye" look to her pics/posts about deployments that allow her to drink and go to clubs after work ....
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013
My husband was at a place where he could go get a beer on his day off. But, according to you his deployment doesn't compare to yours (even though you get to see your husband everyday).
Maybe you haven't caught on here, but we try not to have pissing contests with who has it harder. We have all had hardships in different ways.
Though, I'll be sure to inform him he made a smart decision to join the AF so he'll never have to really deploy, just "deploy".
I find nothing about your post sarcastic, but as a AF wife I do take offense to your generalization. You say it isn't about all AF deployments yet you joke that you should have joined the AF instead. My H still makes sacrifices every day.
Edited to delete: H has it better than some. Because although some thing are better for him, some things are worse as well.
I totally agree.
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Amen to that! I am also an AF wife.
vent all you want. Just keep the bashing of other branches out of it. We could all name reasons why one branch is better/worse than the rest, but its really pointless and mean for no reason. Plus it just makes you look bad, and the nest has a loooooooong memory.
You're nesting and you're deployed, and you're with your husband- who's to say your deployment isnt a cake walk compared to someone who, say, is not around the internet at all, or is away from their loved ones without communication for extended periods of time? From their perspective, must be nice to be you...
I changed my name
Knowing that not everyone is dual military like us I dont post things on fb like "oh my DH is workinglate tonight. I wish he was here with me, etc." My vent was geared more about how I find my former classmate posts about how horrible her conditions are "oh poor me the subway ran out of my fav. bread/my life cant go on bc the pool is closed today"and similar posts and then posts pics while at a club and on the beach ...
Lets just call this post my FFSC ... Guess I should have waited for Friday ...
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013
The reaction would have been the same. Do you honestly not understand how what you said was eye-roll worthy?
Right, you get something nice being deployed because of your branch. Your friend gets to go to pretty cool places because she chose that branch and AFSC. I bet plenty of Airmen have it harder than you too, it's all dependent on mission, job, and optempo, right? Not branch. Playing my life is harder is silly and pointless.
It IS nice and rare to get to be gone with your spouse. I would wager that most people think the hardest part of deployments is not combat, or work, or whatever, but being away from their SO. You don't have to deal with that part. Own that if you're going to criticize your friend.
I don't think this would have gone over well whether it was FFC or not.
Ummmm yes, I do ... that was kind of the point ... next time I will use a *insert sarcastic tone/eye roll here* post ....
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013
As Stan said I think most SM's would give up all the "perks" of their deployment if it meant being able to be with their SO and family. My H doesn't see the light of day for weeks at time on deployments, then they go on a port visit where he can do things like go to water parks and hang out at bars and whatever else they want. So I'm sure you have the same opinion of his deployments as well.
I fully admit that people overshare on FB, and I don't think people should complain one day about something then brag about it the next. But regardless, I don't think you should judge her deployment or what she is going through based on FB posts. I can pretty much guarantee that if you said something about her "tough" deployment at the bar and beach, she would offer to trade with you any day if it mean being with her SO. The grass is always greener on the other side.
Ummmm, I didnt want to join the AF bc they werent offering anything that interested me at the time of my enlistment. I am perfectly satisfied with my branch of military.
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013
Interesting that you say the bolded bc I asked if she would trade her 3 month deployment w/out her spouse for my 15 month deployment with my spouse and she said NOPE. You may have chosen differently but I would gladly take her deployment of wearing civilian clothing, not carrying a weapon, living in a hotel, and going to the clubs after the duty day over being where I am taking incoming rounds on a daily basis.
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013
ITA. Minus the Halloween costume part. She even says in the OP that she knows not all AF deployments are like that. I make a crack to my AF LTC at least once a week that I'm in the wrong branch. And he does the same. Meh, all in good fun I think.
Yeah, I don't know BLT, this wasn't joking around with someone in the AF, it was complaining that her friend's AF deployment was too easy. Ojo and MH joke around with each other about their branches and their jobs, that's not what I read here.
I know people have come on here and talked crap on the NG, reservists, etc. and you and others have rightly jumped on them.