So, the great date I had on Oct 19......I guess it was a one-time thing.
We left it with he asked me "let's get together agains ometime during the week next week" and a kiss, then when I got home I got a text saying "I had fun meeting you, let's do it again sometime soon..." and I said "would love to!" and then that was that......
I texted him that Sunday a "good luck in your triathlon this weekend!" and he said "thanks for checking in. Actually, the big race is next weekend, today was just training. I'm not sure I'm gonna do it yet though. How was your wknd?" and I answered a brief reply "It was good, just went to a ghost story night at a local cemetery with friends. Hope yours was good too!"
That was that.....
He's actively on Match a lot. I have a feeling he's dating 700 women I fell thru the cracks. Motha-fookah!!!!
Argh.
Re: Well, he never followed up/called......
So annoying!
Just remember rule #3....NEXT!
If I"m doing the math correctly, that means his triathalon was this weekend? If he was still prepping for it, he might have been too focused / busy to call you and get together.
See what the next week brings.
And if he is dating 700 people - you don't want him.
That does suck.
This happened to me with a guy from Match many months ago. We had a great date, same kind of situation as you with follow-up texts. I ended up contacting him a few days later asking if he wanted to get together that weekend. I heard nothing. Then a few weeks later, he'd text me and ask how I was, did I want to do something soon? I'd say sure. Then I heard nothing.
That happened a couple of times, then he Facebook-friend requested me, and I didn't accept and wrote him a note: "Actually, it looks like we can't even manage to be friends, doesn't it? Good luck to you." He wrote "oh ok" and that was it. I thought it was so stupid. I'm sure I'm "dodged a bullet" with that weirdo.
Anyway, I'm sorry it hasn't gone quite as you imagined so far -- maybe give him one more chance if it comes up, then I'd say it's probably a lost cause.
If he's active on Match a lot, my guess is that he's a perennial shopper, always thinking something better might be around the corner. He's out for the hunt, not the catch. I encountered quite a few of these, and my BFF did as well. I think it goes with the territory of online dating.
I think you're going to meet someone soon...I feel it in my bones.
I agree here. This may or may not be the case, but even after a year together, my SO doesn't always respond to texts if there isn't a question involved in the text. Maybe give him a buzz after the tri and just talk to him and see how he's doing.
I hope so! I've been rooting for TEM since I came on this board!
Goooo TEM!
Me three!! TEM, that sucks but it is definitely his loss! You deserve much better!
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04