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WWYD re:job situation

I've been offered a new position at work and I don't know if I want it. 3 other people are being interviewed and we'll know for sure at the end of the week.

Here is my problem. I moved here to be with stbxh. I got the job I have now because it was easy and no stress and it helped with the bills. My plan was to look for something better once stbx graduates and we move to a bigger city. Now that I am divorcing and I am on my own, this job doesn't pay enough. I've had this job for 3.5 years and need to do something else. 

The new position would be an improvement. Better schedule and more responsabilities. But unfortunately, pay stays the same and I am still stuck with something I am way overqualified for.  

I want to start looking for a better position within the same company but at a different location. I love the company and there is definitely something for me but just not where I live. Everytime I would apply for a position, my boss would be notified.

So WWYD? I already let my boss know that I need a job that pays better given my situation. It didn't seem to be a problem to her. So what if I am offered the slightly better position at the end of the week? Do you still think it would be OK for me to pursue something better? Would you wait a couple months to start looking for something better? keep in mind that any position I would apply for would be known by my boss unless I look somewhere else.

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Re: WWYD re:job situation

  • The world is your oyster, LandofBiscuits.  I would try to negotiate more money for more responsibility and be willing to walk away from the new job if there is no increase.  The problem with getting more responsibility but less money is your next job will say, "How much did you make at last job" and then low ball you because current job did. 

  • Is it not possible to just not take this one and keep looking within the company (and elsewhere, of course)?  I'm not sure why that would upset your boss - s/he knows you need more money and this job isn't giving you more, so why would s/he expect you to be OK with it?
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  • Would it 'look better' to take the new position because it shows you're accepting more responsibility and that you want to continue to grow with the company? I would sit down with your boss again and perhaps reinforce the fact that you're looking for more within the company and that you really enjoy working for them, etc. and that, if anything were to open up that is more in line with your needs/wants, would she be willing to help facilitate the move.  Something like that.

    I've found that being honest and voicing your concerns with conviction is much more effective in the long run.  Best of luck :) I hope you get what you want!

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  • It sounds like your boss understands your situation so I would just ask her what she'd prefer. Just tell her that you're totally up for new challenges and more responsibility, but you have to continue looking for something that pays more due to your changed circumstances. Let her decide if she'd rather have you at the other job for a short time or not at all. From an admin perspective, having someone take a job and then leave a few months later for something else is a nightmare so they might prefer to avoid that. 

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  • Ok I mentioned this to my attorney since we needed to talk on the phone and he advised me to look for a better paying position no matter what. Not looking for a job that pays more could be used against me.  Nice ugh? I feel like I can't catch a break.
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  • You're not in a bad position here. Your boss knows that you need more money, and they can't expect you to take a job for the same amount. In fact, I personally feel insulted when companies try to give me a "raise in rank" but not salary. Sorry, but my time doesn't come for free.

    The first question to ask is do you want the job? If so, can they meet your pay requirements? If not, look for another position. 

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